Help, I'm new to the site I don't know where to turn. I'm a single mom of a wonderful little girl who's father only finds time to see her when I ask him to watch her for the day. I don't really have family or friends to talk to. And I am feeling very overwhelmed. Does anyone know of any support groups in Queens NY? I know there are a lot of us out there but I can't seem to find them. I really need some one to talk to. I already lost one child because I had no family support, I can't loose my angel, she's the only thing keeping me going these days. HELP PLEASE!

Hi Nymenche,
Welcome aboard. You have come to the right place. We have a lot of great people in here to try to help you. What's wrong?

I guess, I'm just feeling very lonely. Like everyone in my life just walks out. I really don't have any friends around. I don't know what to do with myself. My daughter's father only seems to want to take her when he knows I'm at work and can't doing anything for myself. He's a bit of a control freak. And it's like he's using his visitation or lack of, as a way to make sure I can't move on with my life. I know it sounds bad. There are a lot of people with bigger problems, but sometimes I just feel like I'm going to loose it if I don't get some time for me. My daughter as great as she is, is more than a handful. It's gets pretty frustrating

Ok....Hi.
Tell us a little about yourself so we can make some suggestions. How old are you? How old is your child? What sort of things define you?

I do understand you wanting to get some time to yourself. That is important. Have you explained this to your ex? Can he take your daughter for an overnight visit, maybe? Is there anyone else around that you would trust to give you a window of time? Like maybe a neighbor or a co-worker?

Hi Nymenche,
Welcome. You say your lonely. Not any more. There are lots of great moms and dads here so when you need someone to talk to, pick a name and click on it. We all know what it means to be overwhelmed by your kids. That's a common thing around here. It is a single parents site. I'm luckier than some because I'm joint custody, non-custodial but it wasn't always like that. For a long time it was 12 hour shifts mon.-thurs. then little girl fri.,sat. and sun. then back to work.
But you know what? The time without her was worse by far then the time she was with me. I missed her all the time. Anyways, join in and make some friends.

I'd like to welcome you aboard as well Nymenche.
Really are a great group of people, we may live far apart but friendships can and do still happen here. And wonderful support and advice is abundant.
Best wishes

thank you, all of you. Let's see, I'm a 31 year old mother of two. My son,James, 14, doesn't live with me.And is constantly getting into trouble. My daughter, Morganne, 3, is a very hyper child. She is also extremely smart and intuitive. Her father does take her over night sometimes, but lately it seems like it's only day visits, when he has off during the week and only if I ask. (Then he worries that another man will one day become more important to our daughter than he is.) I've told him several times that I need time for myself whether it's to be alone or go out with friends. It doesn't seem to click. This is one of the many reasons we are no longer together. I unfortunately, do not have many friends or family that I can count on. The friends that I do have I don't want to trouble with my problems. I feel like I'm asking too much. I guess that because I've never really had anyone to depend on, so I have a lot of trust issues that I am trying to get over. I've realized over the past months that I can't do everything on my own.
Thank you again.