In a two week period he has missed two visitiations. My ex picks the kids up from school and has them for 2 hours each day. Last week we had court, and he the day before court he asked me to pick the kids up from school. On Thursday this week we have mediation. Today he asked me to pick up the kids.

I mean, I love having my kids with me. But he doesn't get it. How is he supposed to show he has the children's best interest at heart? Normally I can follow his logic. NOrmally I know how he'll defend his actions. But I don't get this. How do you tell the mediator, yes I want custody of my kids and then go do this? My only thought is he must not get it. And that is so totally stupid for him. He might no understand some things, but this is something he normally gets. I'm at a loss.

At this point the kids are doing okay with it. They haven't asked very much about why their father isn't picking them up every day. BUT my son had to be removed from class on Friday due to behavior issues. So, I guess they really aren't okay.

Jerk! Oh I can find better words, but that one will not be edited. How dare he decide he wants custody of those precious beings and then just opt to not pick them up. What the heck? Well, if there weren't young kids involved I'd say I'm glad he's so darn stupid. Digging one's own grave, he seems to be smart in that department.

The saga continues.

Tonight was Kindergarden registration for our daughter. I had encouraged him to come to the registration to help fill out paperwork. He talked like he was coming, but I could sense that he likely would bail.

Sure enough, he bailed. He calls me right before we're leaving. He asks, now why do I need to come? I told him to help fill out the paperwork. He quickly figured out that it wasn't absolutely necessary for him to be there, that it was something that I could do on my own, his signature wasn't required on any certain documents. So he simply insisted that I register her as having two addresses, and then he'd be happy. Sorry, K paperwork expects the kid will have one address. I kind of knew that, but I did look. I listed him as back up, he's on there as her father.

I don't know what he's paying his lawyer for. Certainly isn't advise. I am saddened by his behavior. He wants custody of our daughter. And he has good intentions. He really does love her, and he truly believes that my house is a saftey hazard. (While we were married our house was a disaster area what with his obsessive compulsive collecting.) He doesn't realize that his own lack of involvement is a real problem.

Sue, he's not a jerk. He really has a good heart. He wants what's best for the kids. He has great intentions, but absolutely no follow thru. He can talk, and boy he can talk. And he really believes that if he talks it enough, he'll end up walking.

Why do they do these things, they are hurting themselves too.... that's what gets me. If not having the ability to do things for others and acting in selfish ways.... why can't they turn one kind of selfishness into another and do these things for them, you know what I mean?



I hope he gets to mediation and I hope it can really open up his eyes and help both of you!