My ex recently told me he had moved. He is refusing to tell me where or with whom. I am assuming he has moved in with the woman he has beens seeing for the past three months. I have never met this woman, know nothing about her lifestyle or background and was told I will never know these things. I was assured that during her father's weekend visits the baby and him were sleeping at his brother and sister in laws ( I was told he was still living there). After catching him in a lie he confessed that he had moved but will not tell me where or give me a land line phone number to contact him in case of emergency. His cellular phone is a pay as you go and is rarely topped up with airtime.

So my question is, Am I being too harsh in telling him that he can not take her over night until I know where he is living and taking her as well as what kind of sleeping arrangements there are?

I don't think so!! You have every right to know where your child is and who your child is spending time with. I for one, would be concerned if you DIDN'T care. Stick to your guns and deny visits until you meet the woman and know where he's living.

I think you need to know where your child is spending the night with and where she is. I would also be concerned if it was my child. I would want to know if there was a crib or if it was a baby proof home.

thats not harsh you just need to know where your baby is and if your baby is safe, you have a right to know i would think

This is your child you have the right to know where she is and where she will be sleeping. Make it clear to him that you have no intrest in who he spends his time with, just in who is around your baby and where she is. There is no way I'd let her go without having a phone # and address.

You have every right to know where your baby is and the environment she will be in. I think you should go with your instinct and deny the visits until you have a number for emergencys and feel comfortable with where she will be and who she will be with.