Well I guess first off I should say I am new to this page and new to this whole custody thing. So I have no clue of the legalitys or anything like that. I did take my ex to court and got supervised visits for him with our son and he gave me full custody. He said he wasn't worried about it. Well the judge ordered him to finish some classes (which he finally did 5 months later) and then he could have unsupervised time. Well today is the first unsupervised visit. I am so nervous and worried and all that stuff. Just because our son is almost 3 and has NEVER had "alone" time with his dad...except maybe an hour to go to wal-mart. Well yesterday we talked and he had requested for our son to go spend the night with him tonight and then 2 nights next weekend and then several nights to go out of state. And well I said no so now he is mad about it and told me he is going to take me back to court and he knew the judge would give him 2 or 3 days at a time with our son and there was nothing I could do about it. And that he was also going to ask for joint legal custody. So now I am all in a frenzy about this. Worried and frustrated and all. And I guess I just need to talk to people who have been thru this before and who can reassure me and help me understand what all these legal terms mean and just help me! Well I will post more about the first visit later.

Well from what I saw the first visit went good. On my behalf it was hard and I was sad and frustrated. But I got thru it. I am also letting him see him tomorrow (even though the court order says ONE day a week for several hours) I am being lenient. And this man still wants to take me back to court and fight me. I am so frustrated and upset and scared. Scared...I don't know why just am. I just need someone that has been thru this that can talk to me. Hope to find them here

Had a similair situation but different circumstances I am sure: Have the judge consider overnight visits only if he is consistent in seeing your son for 6 months or so. So you rosn is more comfortable and your ex develpos some consistency and becomes more comfortable actyually spending time with him. Have you goen to court yet or is he just threatening you so far? easy fo rme to say (becasue I worry about everythiing) but don't worry too much yet until you see a court paper.

Well so far he is just threating me. I don't know if he really will take me back to court. And I totally think the waiting a few months is a good idea and thats what I told him and of course he thinks thats stupid. But I know that the only time our son can spend the night with him is when he is at his girlfriends house. Because he stays at a school during the week. And he himself told me when I asked him "so what happens if you and your g/f break up in 3 weeks?" and he said well if we aren't together that weekend I just won't see our son. And when my mom was doing the supervision she said that when he was with his new g/f and her GRANDchild that he paid no attention to our son that he just paid attention to his g/f. But that when it was just my mom and him and our son he was good to him. So I am just frustrated and all. Lets just keep fingers crossed I can keep him at bay for a while until I can come up with the money to pay my lawyer..