First a little background:

Mom has never been in trouble, no drugs, no violence, no arrests etc. Has a stable house and active extended family.

Dad has a long record of driving while suspended with 2 assults that are maybe 15 years old. He is a felon. He is an active methamphetamine user/manufacturer. Has no known house or job and very little family support.

Relationship lasted 6 years. Dad was mentally and emotionally abusive with mom and physically abusive of children. Nothing was reported until the day dad came home with a 9mm and threatened mom saying that he would kill her and her kids before he would ever let them go.

Dad is allowed supervised visitations that are overseen by a professional supervisor which he has to pay for.

Dad has had 5 months of allowable visitation at 4 hours per week and has exercised 4 hours in that time.


Now the situation:

There had been no previous run ins between mom and dad because of the protection order.

Mom shows up to drop children off for visitation and dad is there. Dad looks directly at mom and doesn't leave until she motions to call the police. Dad leaves.

Mom takes kids into visit. Tells supervisor what happened. Mom leaves kids. Comes out and dad is there again and not supposed to be for another 10 minutes per the supervisor agreement.

Mom leaves, when its time to pick kids up, dad is gone. She comes out with the kids and dad is there again. She calls the police, he leaves.

Mom takes kids home and gets the file for the police report.

Oldest child (5) tells mom that dad cut them apples at visitation. Child tells mom that dad had a big knife. Supervisor did not take the knife from dad. Supervisor didn't say anything. Dad put knife back in his pocket. Supervisor said nothing to mom, post-visit.

Same child later tells mom that dad said they were going to come live with him.


What would you do? What are your views/opinions/thoughts etc????

Who is this so called "professional"? Who does he/she work for? Who is their supervisor? And WHO do you file a complaint with??

Once complaint is filed, get a copy. Get a copy of records showing when and how long dad did visit and any notes (if any) from the visits. Get a copy of all police records regarding visits. Ask for a police escort to and from visits with the children.

Go back to court. Ask them to mandate counseling and parenting classes BEFORE supervised visitations resume.

If you can afford one, call an attorney, or at least someone from either the police or child support department for advice. An emergency order suspending visits may be granted before a hearing is scheduled.

Good luck! My prayers are with you! Keep us posted.

Hugs! :hugme:

fyi, my mom was and is always witness to this because I refuse to go alone to any court hearing or visitation.

This is WA state. The particular "professional" is an independent as are all professionals in the area. When asked previously who he answered to, he said no one. So technically speaking there isn't anyone to file a greivance with.

While calling other supervisors to find a new one several of the other supervisors have admitted that this man does not know what he is doing and they each have several clints that came from him.

I was able to obtain an ExParte order appointing a new supervisor. He has been in law enfocement for 20 years and is a Sherrif in a nearby county. And does supervised visitations armed and with a partner. However dad is ordered to show cause as to why the new supervisor should not be appointed.

If you couldn't see the steam coming from my ears, beleive me, it's there!

I just can't beleive that someone in the charge of children would be *that* irrisponsible! He obviously knows why he has this job, and I'm sure yours are not the only children that he "watches".

To me this sounds serious, and your ex sounds dangerous. Your children's safety should be number one on the minds of the court.

I agree, it does sound that the children are in danger, but so are you. I have no idea what you should do, but for some reason I am thinking find one of those underground things because I would run. Good Luck. I will have you in my prayers.

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find one of those underground things because I would run.

If anyone has any kind of information on this, please pass it on. Things might come down to this....

IF that were me i would forget the visits and go modify EVERYTHING back into court and explain what happened. NO way would i take that chance again and let them see him!

Just an update on this. We had court on the 6th for the show cause. The SD didn't submit any kind of reply and had the supervisor there as his support. The supervisor lied in court about saying to my mom that he would never supervise visitation again for us. And then the SD lied in court saying that he never recieved the paperwork knowing full well that there was a return of service in the judges hand that very moment with his signature ON it. The judge sent the kids back to this particular supervisor for two more visits, allowing the SD time to respond appropriately (cause he is an idiot like that) and we have court again on the 20th of April. I refused to sign the order sending the kids back to this supervisor. I told the judge that she was putting our kids in harms way and I would NOT be responsible for the courts actions. Needless to say, they wrote on the order that I was present and refused to sign. No big deal. They are lucky something hasn't happened or they would all be responsible. I will update again after court on Thursday