so DUMBO comes to see our son today (it's been 3 months since he last came to town). we had a "pleasant" visit. he only stayed 2 hours & brought along some girl (his ride). i don't approve of that but i'll let it slide this time. but this one i call DUMBO will be in town until thursday evening & doesn't plan on visiting again. he's such a joke always accusing me of trying to keep his son from him - yet here he is in town and this was his only effort!!!

sorry to hear that, but dumbo is a amusing nickname. lol it made me laugh.

Hanzi, that's the best you can do about it as well...laugh about it. Remember, it's HIS loss first.

I was accused for many years that I kept the children away.....Funny, just short of being the DADDY, I've done everything possible to keep them abreast of what is happening in their lives, pictures, addresses, report cards, the illnesses, what's going on in school....what the heck else can a person do to include someone that uses me as the excuse as to why their children don't want to be bothered...

Trust me, two of mine have reached the age of knowing what is the truth...I didn't have to say an unkind word about their father. They saw the real truth.....

I agree, his loss.....These men don't realize that they have to own up to their mistakes with their children.....

thx all! it's not as if i even want to see him again this week i'm just so sick of his "woe is me" attitude. poor pitiful Dumbo.

and, one more mine-rant...i turned on the news while they were here & says, "nice picture" (referring to my TV reception - i do not have cable) - i said "yeah, you know what that is...its called 'free tv'). how rude of him to comment about what i have or don't have when he lives w/ & sponges off his elderly parents while working penny-anny jobs!!!

It is so funny to read these posts today, because last Friday I got a letter in the mail from my J**k A*s, filing a motion about lowering his child support payments, when he has not paid me a penny since our divorce was finalized. Talk about dumbo!!! I don't know where he is going with this. He has not seen the kids for over a year. Last he spoke to them was in December before going out of the country for 2-3 months. He accuses me of keeping the kids from him, when in reality the time our divorce was being finalized in the court, the judge asked him why he did not want any physical visitations with the kids. His reply was "I am waiting for her to calm down and then we will work out something together". Sooooooooo not happening. I told the judge what ever needs to be worked out has to be through the court of law, other wise see ya later Jack. I guess I'll see Jack on Monday after several months, lol.. I was very upset at first, but every time I consult with an attorney, they are surprised that he is bringing this upon himself. Oh one thing that does really upset me is that I have to hire another attorney, pay another retainer and the whole nine yards. He has decided to pursue this on his own, without an attorney, trying to show that

cntd he is very poor and can't afford an attorney. I think that is enough b*****n...for today.

Mag,

Reading your post reminded me that the only people that are able to successfully feed and clothe their children are the ATTORNEYS getting paid due to our cases.

Sad....

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Originally posted by All4Mine:
[qb]Mag,

Reading your post reminded me that the only people that are able to successfully feed and clothe their children are the ATTORNEYS getting paid due to our cases.

Sad.... [/qb]

*sigh* isn't it sad? My ex is dumb enough to take me back to court (he wants sole custody because *gasp* I was late picking my son up a couple times and I didn't ask dads "permission" to put my son in pre-school) and I colsulted a lawyer (I just want to get everything SETTLED so he can't drag me to court again) but his retainer would leave me in the poor house, even if I take out a loan and pay it back a little at a time, I just bought a car and my insurance is twice what it used to be and I can't afford to add another $200 a month for a lawyer. I'm going to take the advice I got in my free 30 minute consultation and go to court on my own. I would feel MUCH more confident with a lawyer, but if its a choice between feeding my kid and paying some lawyer, it's gonna be my kid every time. Too bad. Funny, he is a "modest means" lawyer. Hate to see the retainer on a reg lawyer!

Men can be such idiots. My heart goes out to all of you.

Seraphin, it's me again, on my soap box. Can you get sole custody so he doesn't continue to interfere with your ability to parent just because he has issues with you? It's the best thing I ever did. Disagreeing with preschool is sooo petty? Is he just doing it to piss you off and to be in control?


I wish you good luck in representing yourself. Judges seem fairly lenient with people without representation. My ex's trick when representing himself was to constantly get continuances (I'm getting a lawyer, I want to go to court, not showing up, I'm changing lawyers, Let's resolve this out of court, I'm not using a lawyer...on and on) It cost me a fortune but it put everything off for 2 years.

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Originally posted by gwendlyn:
[qb]Men can be such idiots. My heart goes out to all of you.

Seraphin, it's me again, on my soap box. Can you get sole custody so he doesn't continue to interfere with your ability to parent just because he has issues with you? It's the best thing I ever did. Disagreeing with preschool is sooo petty? Is he just doing it to piss you off and to be in control?


I wish you good luck in representing yourself. Judges seem fairly lenient with people without representation. My ex's trick when representing himself was to constantly get continuances (I'm getting a lawyer, I want to go to court, not showing up, I'm changing lawyers, Let's resolve this out of court, I'm not using a lawyer...on and on) It cost me a fortune but it put everything off for 2 years.[/qb]

Basically, yes, to the using preschool to cover up what his main issue is... Funny, I have to raise 3 children, work, provide, get out of debt, spend quality time with the kids as a group and 1 on 1, go to school, do my homework and help with theirs....I HAVE ZERO TIME, TOLERANCE OR ENERGY FOR BS...

I use to have panic attacks when I would be served, wondering what the h*ll now? I would tell him constantly, "Please get a life, a girlfriend, heck, find God, do something. Just leave me the h*ll alone." Took some years, but he finally found something else to do....

In the meantime, I had to be mommy and daddy in my trying to keep stable home....

It gets better.....

Hey, that sounds familiar. My son's father says the same things, but go figure, He has not come to see him in 2 1/2 years! But then he calls me bitching saying that I'm trying to keep his son from him. I tell him he can come see him any time. I swear, men are a confused gender. Just brush it off and move one. Good luck.

I know how you feel In a way, Kaleb's father isnt in his son's life not by choice but due to curcumstances (Im a terrible speller) His dad has actually been "away" since I was four months pregnant. He's in military jail and wolnt be back untill oct 05 It's a hard thing to live with when you have this precious little child and you think everyone should love them and want to be in there life as much as we do. Someday He will have to answer to your child and hopefully he has a good reason why he wasnt there for him enough. At least you can sleep at night because you know that you are doing your best to be a good parent.And as your child gets older they will respect that fact.
Keep your head up.
Angie