Hi there, I just found this site and i'm finding it very usefull and refreshing that theres alot of advise on here.

My kid's dad I am have split up he now has a new girlfriend. He hasn't had much time to see them because he's very busy working and other stuff, but whenever he has free time, it's spent with his new friend, leaving my kids to wonder why dad doesnt' see them or call them. i am very frustrated by this and hurt because i'm the one trying to heal there poor lil hearts cause dad doesn't come around.

I really feel it is important for him to be there adn have always allowed any visitation. He's bailed out on them quite a few times now adn they as well as myself have become very upset and hurt by it. I'm just trying to understand his point of view but it's rather difficult, i'm so angry with him.

I shouldn't have to be pushing the kids on him, how do i just let it go...I worry about them because I had a dad whom i didnt' know and always wondered why he chose not to be a part of my life. It's not a good feeling at all and nvere wanted my kids to feel that way, but now it's happened. He knew very well how i felt my dad how could he do the same to his own kids.

I'll give him credit where it's due he is around sometime, but not alot anymore, I knew that when he found a girlfriend it would change but i didn't think it would be this bad. He has wanted her to be involved with them but I am not allowing it just yet, his relationship is too new (2/3months) i dont' want them meeting just anyone and if it's in for the long haul i'll gladley let them be involved. Can anyone offer me some advise on how to get him to see them more? or why he's even acting this way?

Hope every one has a good day

Thanks for hearing me out