I have surved the father of my son with papers in New York state. I served him with an order of protction and custody. Since then we ahve been talking he want me to drop on the papers and settle this out of court. I very rarly have a ride to my family court. So I want to know what would happen if I go against the papers my self?

My question is what was the reason that you had to file a protection order in the first place?? If you felt the need to involved the police and the court system in this matter maybe you should stick with it.

What has changed between the two of you that you two can "now" work thing out between the two of you. I would not advise you to go against the order of the court. You really need to sit down and think is this what is best for you and your child. Could he have come up with this idea of "working it out" because you went to court?? Having everything filed and on paper is best for all involved. Don't let his sudden kindness be your weakness. Do what is bets for your saftey and the saftey and well being of you child.

I have the same questions why did you file in the first place? There must have been a reason. If you go against your own court order it will not look good for you and you can be charged with contempt.
Keep to what you have done and make sure you think your decisions out before you do them.

I reason that I filed was that I told the court that he wanted to take the child from me so they felt it would be best to file the two together. I need to take the pertection order away b\c i need things for my son and i can not get them b\c of the order. i have no money i am trying to find a job,and my mother can not buy the things i need for my son b\c see just gets by taking care of my brother. Can i drop the order of protection and still have the temporary order of custody?

You can keep the temp order, but I am not clear on why you needed the protection order?? Also he can provide for your child without you having contact with him.

No he can not b\c in the order of Protection it states that he can not see me or his son, be at my home or job. There would be no way to recieve the things that I need. I got the order of prtection is b\c he theatened to take our son from my home. So the court felt that b\c of that threat it be best for an order of prtection. But what I don't understand is I thought that is what the order for custody was for so he can not take my son until the court hiren.

Do you no longer feel that he would take your son away?? Also I guess the foggy matter is that the courts told you to get a order of protection against him. Protection orders are usaully when a person poses some type of danger to you. You should look more into that.

But as far as the custody goes I would not let that go, it is in the best interest of all involved that this is documented with the courts. Anything you two decide on the side needs to be documented.