i just want to thank a bunch of you for dealing with my ranting and raving not too long ago. i am the one who had the baby with the guy who wanted to always drug test me??????? not pay child support....and was always an ***. i always was trying to figure a way to shut him down through the courts, etc. etc. Ty's mom may remember me and also if CA is around still. i have finally calmed down, might have been the hormones, just had become a mom, or it could have been disgust, in either case. i have realized that the court does not care about the child. as long as the child is not bruised VISUALLY then all is just fine. we are trying to get along. we now have a court order for counseling (CA) and who knows what else. but the one thing i have had to come to grips with is that there is nothing i can do. he seems to love her.......who cares about naps or a decent surrounding......the counselor will fix that right????but i did want to say thanks to those who responded to my ranting, those who were BRUTALLY honest.....and those who were sympathetic, heck we all are to each other right?
and to those who are just joining. what you will read here, both what you contribute as well as what you read, are from the heart. you are not alone, and sadly, may never be able to change. but know you are in good company. take head in what they have to say. they are all wise to the pains, joys, exhuberations and disappointments even...of parent hood. single or otherwise
macy's loving mom.....

Macy's mom,
I am happy you got a counseling order from the courts. Will he participate? I know how it is to have little hope they will turn around and become the parent our children need for them to be. I hope yours will. Is he backing off of you yet? I hope so.... I know you were having problems there.
Take care. I am still around although life does not afford me time to post most days, I still check in.
C

hey ca
he is still a pain and on me about everything. he still wont take parenting classes...he says "what is it going to teach me?" unreal. she gets draged around jax to places a baby should not be. doesnt get naps, but as long as he is happy, then all is alright! yeah, i am trying to make an appointment that will suit both our schedules. and he is just going to complain about that too. but i am hoping that she can get through to him. when we do the final order, whenever that will be, he will have to explain why he hasnt taken the parenting class, why he doesnt want to pay the child support amount HE decided on and i agreed to, why he hasnt gotten a life insurance policy yet, so he actually is doing me a favor. so we will see. did your co-parenting help you at all?