My daughter has been grounded the next two weeks because of pushing someone in class- she is closed to being sent to the principal.

She has a visitation this coming weekend with her father. When I told him she is grounded and could not do anything fun this weekend for two weeks, his reply was "what happens at your house is between you two." and then cancelled his vistation.

Was I wrong for informing him of her trouble at school and wanting his support to uphold the grounding? I thought that if she already has trouble seeing a counselor for anger issues and behavior, that one thing to help would be consistency between the two houses.

Keep in mind this is a ex that rarely takes her-- three months absent at a time ( what was I expecting? Him to do what is best for her? HAHA)

Do you think that maybe your daughter is acting out because of the actions of her father? (not seeing her on a steady basis)...

He needs to step up to the plate and be a responsible parent and help inforce on the punishment. It is not fair of him to think that just because he does not have her all the time that when he does get her they only get to have fun time.

PROBABLY NOT.....SOUNDS LIKE POOR REASONING ON HIS PART....HE WANTS TO BE HER PAL AND NOT HER PARENT....

NO YOU DID RIGHT,,,HE NEEDS TO HIRE A DETECTIVE SO HE CAN HAVE A CLUE......

I did leave some details out in my earlier post. He told me he could care less what happens with her while she is in my house. he again threatened to take me to court for restricting his visitations-- was disciplining her during his visitation or asking him to follow her grounding restricting him? Becasue I could not trust that he would not try to take me to court for restricting him, I did go to visitation drop off and had police sign that we were there and he did not show up-- so there would be no question who's choice that was.

I have a very similar ex except so far he is consistent about visitation time (except what happens during this time is very unhealthy)... so I do my best to keep what happens in my control (my house) consistent...
Kids do act out based on parents behavior or lack of... dont matter the childs age. My now 5 year old has been in counseling for over a year because of what has happened I pray some time soon she will be at a place we can take a break or be done.