I am sooooo pissed off right now, and I just need a place to vent about it.

My ex (we're still going through the divorce after a 3 yr separation) hasn't had our 2 kids for a visit since last July. It's not that I haven't tried to get him to take them at all, but getting him to spend time with the children is like pulling teeth. Although, to hear his gf tell it, he's father of the year to her son and their 2 yr old illegitimate daughter.

His gf moved to GA with her kids to live with her mother after my ex got fired from his job in January. Only since then has he actually cared enough to call about the kids on occassion. Today was his first time taking the kids without me being present since last July.

Why is it that he doesn't give a damn about the kids every other day of the week but they leave my house, where I care for them 24/7, and he has the nerve to call here on his cell phone and nit-pick about things?? (Why didn't you send such-and-such? Why don't you do this? Why did you to that?) Like he should have any right to criticize the way I'm raising the children he can't be bothered with 90% of the time????

UGH

He makes excuses everytime I try to get him involved in their lives, but he thinks he has the right to criticize my parenting when he can't be one? But when I say something to that effect, of course, I'm just mean and that's why we're getting divorced. (Not the fact that he lost his job over po rn and we lost everything because of it and I kicked him out because he couldn't get over the po rn addiction. Or the fact that he's as dumb as a box of rocks.)

Sorry for the long post here, I just really needed a place to let it all out.

Vent away

It can really help.

I feel a major vent coming on too, just lost as to where to start at.

He is a goof!

Gosh...I get the same thing on my end. Doesn't even bother to celebrate my son's birthday or call to make sure he's alive, but when he does take him - on that blue moon occasion "why is this not this way and how can you let this be this way".

I feel for you I really do. It really burns my buttons too...matter of fact just deleted 1/2 my response b/c it turned into a rant.

Those who don't parent have no right to tell us how to.

PLEASE!! Feel free to rant away! It makes me feel better to know I'm not alone!!

I know what you mean about forgetting birthdays. He didn't show up to their party last year (their bdays are 4 days apart, so we just have one party) and the year before he showed up for 10 minutes to inhale something to eat and get a car insurance verification from his mom who was already here. He didn't even call to wish them a happy birthday, or last Christmas. No presents, no cards, no call. Nothing.

That's what he's turning into in their lives. A big, fat nothing.

I hurt for them, but our little girl was so little when we first split that sometimes I think she honestly forgets about him unless I mention him or he actually shows up ("blue moon" season).

Anyone else got this problem? Vent away!