well talked to the ex today... he has left town.. weather on vacation or permanent i dont know.. he wouldnt share that info. all he told me was he left town.. i dont know if he's left state or what. so i guess i wont get my 1st check this month! :angry:
why did i have to be so stupid to had chosen this man to be the father of my child? grr... its been a rough day. :badday:

i need to learn how to finish my post before pushing enter.. lol... i wanted to know if anyone had any knowledge on the signing off of rights... becuase im begining to think i could talk him into it.. i know i then would not get child support but somehow i know it would be batter for my son... just a question.

Generally it's about next to impossible to have a parent's rights signed off. I've heard of it happening where there's imminent danger to a child though rare. Also if someone else is ready to adopt the child and the other parent is willing to sign over rights.

staci, I don't know how to answer your question... but I just wanted to say that you have the cutest little boy!

Staci,

Signing off rights is very hard. Here in VT even if the dad does sign off he is still responible for CS. Weird huh Anyways I wanted to get my son's father to sing off rights and then decied it's much more fun to have him pile up on back CS. It kills him everytime he sees that 60.00/per taken out when he does work and pay. That would be 2months out of the year. So just look at it this way you will always be a thorn in his side forever! I take great joy in this thought! L

BTW VERY CUTE SON. His smile is soooooooooo cute sweet.

SPIRIT

Look, I didn't pick the right husband or dad. However if it wasn't for my X, I wouldn't have this beautiful boy in my life. I wish his Dad would be different, but he's not. Things happen for a reason. There is reason why God gave this son. Find out what it is and see the full potential.

In the state of NV, you can go to family court and file for non payment. They will pay a portion of the child support and then go after dad. Look into it. I know I will have to do that soon enough.

It's next to impossible to get the court system to force a parent to relinquish his/her rights. However, if the ex is WILLING and you have someone who can take over and assume legal responsibility and technically adopt the child (a new husband or even the child's grandfather) then they can "transfer" the rights from one person to the other. But the ex pretty much has to be willing.

what if he was willing and i didnt have anyone to "transfer" rights to? and Spirit.. that seems like such a nice thought.. i like that.. it dont matter where he goes or what he does as soon as he has a legal job they'll find him... nice to know ill be a pain in his *** forever.. lol

OMG, he is one of the cutest little guys I have ever seen!!! What a DOLL!!

I think your best bet is to get in touch with an attorney. I'm not familiar with the laws in Florida, but I'm sure that a first consult with an attorney would be free. They don't usually start charging you until the second appointment. Call around. I'm sure you'll get the answers you need. Or you could always wait until you find someone and get married and then have him relinquish his rights so your new husband could adopt...

My fear right now about my daughter's father still having legal rights is what would happen to her if something happened to me. She would go right to him, and that's absolutely not something I want. So I'm keeping really good track of all the child support he's not paying and once I find the right man to marry, I'll make him a "deal". Because he will not voluntarily relinquish his rights. But I'll tell him either he pays every dollar he owes me or I'll have him sent to jail until he does. Or, he can sign away paternity to a new dad and I'll write off all the debt like it never exhisted... That's my plan, anyways.

Staci he is so adorable.

I wish you the best of luck with your situation.

alex - I worry constantly about my son. What if I died? He would have to live with his Dad. Even though, he barely cares what happens to him. Worse than that, he would take him and let his parents raise him. They already screwed my X - I do not want them screwing up my son.

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Originally posted by alim4547:
[qb] alex - I worry constantly about my son. What if I died? He would have to live with his Dad. Even though, he barely cares what happens to him. Worse than that, he would take him and let his parents raise him. They already screwed my X - I do not want them screwing up my son. [/qb]

That's exactly what Ava's dad would do - take her to his parents, who live 6 hours away! My family would never get to see her. I've talked to my mom and dad about it and if something ever happens to me, they are going to fight for her to the death! But still, they would probably lose... the best they could probably hope for would be visitation. So I'm working towards getting him to sign away his rights and if something ever happened to me after that, I'll have a will set up wherein Ava would go to my sister and her husband, who would then raise her. It's kind of depressing to think about these things, but you have to plan for the worst when it has to do with the well-being of our kids.

I wish my X would do that, there is no way. He is to selfish to think of what is best for his son.

He's not going to do it voluntarily, I'm going to have to "blackmail" him into it!

I actually could black mail my X with some evidene he left behind on his rush out the door of abandoment. I just couldn't do that. One black mail is illegal and two I would feel guilty putting my son's father in jail. Your situation my dear is not black mail, but rather a proposition. If I could get away with it, I would.