I am sitting here bawling my eyes out over an argument with my childrens father. He is with another woman, has another baby, yet he still won't just let me be! Everytime I think we are done and I can move on with my life, here he comes.

A few years ago when babygirl was born, we made a promise to each other that we would not make decisions alone for our kids. We decided we would discuss all that we did prior to doing it. So tonight I was doing our daughters hair, and I noticed that it was shorter than before. I called him, and he realized that his sister had cut her hair. Now I know this is really nothing to get upset over, but this hair is supposed to be in her babybook, not in the local dump! I am soooo irritated! I do not know what to do!

Ok so he comes over to pick her up and I lost my cool and went off on him calling him everything but a child of God. I love this man still and it hurts me to know that I have not only been left out of his life, but also out of seeing our daughter and him interacting! It really bothers me that I am the outcast here! Yet I am the one who wakes up diligently every morning at 4am to be at work at 6am. I am the one who pays all the bills, never dates, and feels like life is worthless! What am I supposed to do? Where do I go from here?

Nya,

You are not alone, unfortunately a lot of us are in your situation.

I agree with the haircutting, no one should have cut her hair without discussing it first, especially if it is her first hair cut. Unfortunately it happened and now is over, but what you can do is try to reitterate how important is for everyone to be involved in your child life and decisions concerning her. Yeah, sometimes it is not easy doing on our own, but we have to make the best of our situation for ourselves and our children. My best advice is communication anyway you can get it. Well good luck to you & take care.