Well let's see! I am a single mother of a five year old little boy. I have been divorced a little over a year. My ex and I have joint custody(He,being my ex, has Tues. night dinners, Thurs. overnight and every other weekend including Thur.) This has been somewhat working in that when the orders were set, my ex lived 10 minutes away and our son was in pre-school. Now, my ex with his girlfriend and their baby have moved in with his mother and sister about an hour away and our son is in Kindergarden. We, being my son and myself, live about 5 minutes from his school, with my mother. I have tried reasoning with this dunder head of an individual that trying to get our son to school on time is too trying for him. He wants no part of reason and insists on keeping the same schedule. I should also mention he resents having to pay any "child support" and therefore will give up no "time" for fear of having an increase in support. He has become completely irate of late because I refused to pick our son up afterschool. I should also mention, my ex fought me to get this type of visitation, that he clearly cannot keep. I would love to pick him up from school if I knew he would be staying home. Not being shuffeled off to spend the night just to be back at school at 8 a.m.
So now he says he'll take me back to court, ask for 50/50 visitation, *not pay me anything*. I guess what I need to know is on what basis would he get this kind of visitation? I have documentation of the times where he has cancelled his scheduled time with our son. I have never cancelled, he's my son for God's sake. If I want to do grown-up things, I do them when my son will be at his dad's. But then again, I guess the operative word is grown-up!!
Well I would love input from anyone who has had to deal with a similar situation or a similar ex-husband.
Thanks!

Even with 50/50 custody he will have to pay the legal percent of his net pay.

And that legal percent is with co-parenting. At least my understanding, each state is different.

Find the family mediation in your court house or something like it, usually free.

Ask if they could help with a resonable plan for the both of you and for the best interest of your child/children.

Maybe after you get some ideas, you can then approach your ex and suggest that plan, if not maybe set a time at the mediation center for both of you and hammer out something.

It will cost a bundle to go back to court, for both of you, and less to spend on your child. He may have to filp the bill if you two cant work it out like Adults.

I think you are going about this right by asking for any resources, options, and alternatives. Good luck.

Peace
Robin