I've made a similar post in Depression. I was guilted into going to a weekly Saturday meeting by my ex. I had only planned on staying an hour. He made me confront the 'leader' & tell him. That's fine, I ain't worried about confronting anybody but then the leader was like, 'yea-I'd like for you to stay here until after lodge (4 rounds of sweat lodge)-at least go in for the first round'. BB pointed out by saying, 'this is an elder talking'. I'd of done been shuned & run into the ground had I said no & left. Fine. I went into lodge, 6 mos prego. Granted my 'waves' were calmed but still am against the idea-I'm a candidate for preterm labor. I was guilted into staying long after that because an incident occured & the cops were called (no relation to me). I was guilted into staying longer for dinner & would have been guilted into staying longer for their circle meeting had it actually occured. I told him that I had to drive 2 hrs home (it was already 8:30 by then) & he gets mad at me. He told me all day long that I 'needed' to stay there & be amongst positive people & that they're my family. I was so bleeping frustrated. I wanted to leave sooner to go to my step fathers dinner but..again, 'what has he done for you but put you down?' etc. He still believes that we're together. One thing though that really stuck out was he kept talking to me about taking my power back from people: not let them 'walk' all over me, deciding things for me. He was talking about a completely different incident but I applied it to that incident. Ding!the light went on. I will take my power back-FROM HIM! (joyously kicking mad)

nioce. I like this post i hate ppl that tell me what i do and dont need to do when they have no right too.