i was 16 whe n i found out i was pregnant.i told my boyfriend and though we were excited we were also very worried. I wasn't too worried about being a mother, i was worried because i'm much smaller than most girls my age and was worried i'd miscarriage.When i told my mother, we decided we'd wait to make sure before we told anyone.We needed to find a doctor and a clinic that would take my insurance and we knew it would be a while before I'd ever get an appointment.some people being nosey and ignorant decided the right thing for them to do would be to call everyone in my family and my boyfriend's to tell them of my news.my mother supported me 100% and i trust her with everything, but my boyfriend's parents were just the opposite. They screamed at him to his breaking point and it took all i had to stop him from crying and to keep him from hurting himself. they told us we were just babies and made it perfectly clear that they weren't going to support me.i felt like they were acting more childish than us because we had everything worked out and we were acting like calm and rational adults when they were the ones acting like babies.my mother and i decided we didn't need them and i would never trust them ever again. As months went by they acted like nothing ever happened and they wanted total and complete control of mine and my baby's life.i could never forgive them, for making me sound like a slut and making my family out to be trash. i wanted them to be out of my live forever.i cried every night during my pregnancy feeling helpless and betrayed with only my mother and my boyfriend 's support. he had quickly forgiven his family, being the sweet guy that he is but i hadn't. the closer i got to being half way there the more they talked about "their" baby, thinking they'd take her for a few weeks then send her back to her mother for a few, like a baby doll.my mom and i thought that was clinically insane, to take a baby from her mother like that right after her birth! i was so afraid they'd try to steal her from me i was under so much stress i had to stay in the hospital because i started spotting and contracting months prematurely. i had to stay in bed for most of my pregnancy and my mom and boyfriend took care of me. i had millions of ultrasounds to make sure my baby was alright everytime i would start to spot. since i was so small my baby stayed pretty small too and i was under so much pressure from everyone at school and mostly from his parents. I ended up in the hospital 2 months before my due date, on medication to stop preterm labor. i was so worried about his parent's taking my baby i couldn't even feel my contractions! the doctor was surprised cause they were so close together and so consistant.i stayed overnight but two days later had to go back again only this time there was no stopping the contractions, i had to give birth. with my mother and my grandmother by my side holding my hand I gave birth to the smallest baby girl i ever seen, so delicate and fragile (3lbs, 1 1/2 ounces.)i knew everything would be alright because we were strong, both little but fighters and i was right, she was completely developed which surprised everyone she could almost fit inside my hand! they had to take her away from we and send her to another hospital to make sure there wasn't anything wrong. my mom called the other grandparents though she didn't want to cause we were still angry at their ignorance with no attempt of apologizing, like i'm suppose to welcome them with open arms.they didn't even care if i was alright. they were going straight to the other hospital right away to see my baby before i even had a chance to hold her,to see when they can take her home still with their visions of taking her to live with them and all the other garbage they spit at me. i'm not the person to tell them off, i let people walk over me, i just keep making excuses when they plan to take her, plus i breastfeed so she needed to be with me anyway.they are strange people to me and don't agree with anything i accomplish, they want to be the head of the parade showing "their" baby to the world running my life treating her like a toy. its been a year and they torture me trying to tell me how to live and what to do. but i know deep in my heart my little bug (that's what we call her)now a year, is the prettiest, healthiest, sweetiest, smartest little girl i ever seen.she isn't tiny and helpless but a pleasantly round 23lbs no help to them.it tears me apart when they don't show that they're proud of me, never saying a kind word to me, but expecting to play dress up everytime they invite themselves over trying to and how should i approach them?

I am so sorry that they didnt support you. Thats wrong that they put yo so much crap being pregnant with your baby. It makes me so mad when parents think that you cant do it. My friends parents were like that, they took it as they would have to raise her baby. Im sure your doing a great job with her. Does your bf's parents still want to take her? You can email me if you like. Becky979*hotmail.com

PS. My sons 9 months and 21lbs. Hes a porker,

I'm sure it was hard on being young, having to deal with sterotypes, school, and his parents. I went through the same thing when I got pregnant with my oldest son at age 15; accept it was my family against me. My mother put me out and my sons father and I got an apartment together. 2 years later I was pregnant with my youngest son. I heard all the negative things again. I was only 17, and a senior in high school. During this pregnancy my sons father was shot and killed. I felt I had no one, at this point
I needed my family's support. It was hard to just up and forgive them but after all they are my family. I thought about all the negative things they said, and I now realize they only told me the truth. My mother was so upset because she'd been there and wanted me to live my life. The only thing I can say is, although they may have doubted you they are still your baby's family. Rather you like it or not you're going to have to deal with them for the rest of your life. You don't have to forget the way they treated you, but you should forgive them. After all you were still young and having a baby is a big step, and brings along a lot of changes. they are parents and now grandparents and I'm sure they were just reacting and didn't think at the time that a baby was in their sons best interest.

I know what it is like to have an insane other family to deal with. My ex's family hated the fact that I was pregnant, well his mom hated it. Of course it was my fault and she acutally had the audacity to come up to my work and lecture me and ask me to give up my son for adoption. Then I said no because of this and this and this and she asked me if my hoem was a suitable place to raise I child and I said yes. She then told me that if I ever felt that it wasn't that I could move in with her (this is a week after she tried to commit suicide for the fifth time). Crazy lady. It only got worse from there and it hasn't gotten any better and it's been two years! If you ever need to talk I'm here for you. Ever need to vent I'll listen. Congrats on your miracle of a little (well not so little now) =) girl! Keep in touch!
Melissa

Wow that is deep just when we think things are going bad in our lives, another post goes up with someone down. I am so sorry that this has happend to you!!! His parent ( animals were i come from) are so wrong in there doing!!! They should respect you enough not to do things like that but that can go out the window. But watch your self you really do not want them to be feeding your daughter a bunch of crap about you!That is not fair to you or your daughter!!1 I will pray for you and your daughter and boyfriend and mother and those people that are being so crul to you!!! Stay proud honey you did it!! You chose life when it would have been so easy to chose Death!!! God Bless you
Amanda

diamondeyes...

Don't let then get you down. You�re a strong woman and if anything they helped to make you strong. There's this saying and I believe it with all my heart. "What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger". You�re a walking, talking example of this. I partially understand what your going threw. I'm going threw something kind of similar with my father. My biggest solution was changing my phone number(he lives in NY, I live in AZ). It's works for now, but it isn't a permanent solution. The only thing that I can tell you to do is hang in there. And always remember that your better then them! Maybe you should tell them how you feel. Who knows, they may feel bad and they don't know how to express it to you.