All of my friend's tell me I should "move on" but I just can't. I still love my husband with all of my heart. When we married I was scared and he told me he would never do this, leave me/us that is....and then he spent the last 13 years reinforcing that. Literally, he would constantly tell me how much he loved me and would never leave me. Even two weeks after his announcement to leave us I got an old card in the mail telling me how much he loved me. Now he wants me to believe "it's over" and he doesn't love me anymore. We have a teenage son who he is hardly ever contacting and actually we still love overseas.....Please let me know what you think. My friends are getting tired of me crying and not "moving on" but I just can't turn off my heart....

First, You have found the right place to come.

You can't just turn your heart off at will. This is going to take a lot of time for you. I think it is harder when it was his choice to leave and you weren't ready for it yourself. Feel free to unload on us all you need to.

Cathouse,
Astarte is right...you CAN'T just turn off your heart. There are many of us on this forum in your situation; I, personally had to deal with my wife leaving after 20 years. It takes time...time to mourn and heal.

We are here to provide whatever support we can. Feel free to vent or dicuss as you feel necessary. Just keep in mind we are in and out...sometimes waiting for responses can feel like an eternity.