Has anyone thought about what they would say to their ex if they could see them one last time??? In my situation, I haven't seen my ex since August 20, 2004 (day after his birthday) but I think, what if I run into him, what would I say, what would I do, what if Kai was with me??? I have thought about numerous responses on this and still don't have an answer.

I'd probably say something along the lines of "Sorry, I don't have any spare change."

I have to see mine, so my answer would be "Go away."

i think i would pretend I didnt know him.. and if he tried to come over and say hi id walk away especially if my son was with me.. I'd act like i didnt know him.. mean.. but true. I hate that man.

That's what my favorite thought is. If he were to come up to me, I would be like "Sorry, do I know you?" LOL, I laugh everytime I think about it. And the icing on the cake would be if Kai were with me. Then he can see what he skipped out on and hopefully it would drive a stake through his heart.

I have the opportunity to see mine in December at a Christmas party I was invited to. I think I may say something like:
"Hey there, haven't seen you in a while. Oh, I've been great, just fantastic actually. I haven't been this happy with my life in ten years, and the last seven years had been an absolute nightmare. (that was my time with him) I mean after all that time I didn't think happiness was even possible. I was even seriously thinking about switching teams to see if the other side was any better, because Heaven knows I wasn't scoring any homers with the pitcher I was playing with. No offense of course I'm sure ****** is completely satisfied with your simple and predictable approach. I mean we both know that I was just too much to handle in that area. Thank goodness I finally met a man who could just rock my world. I mean I am just exhausted, the man is just insatiable. I can barely keep up with him. I was even thinking I may have to bring some of my friends home just so I can have a break once in a while. I mean I'm hitting my prime and all but I still could be in danger of blowing my motor with the way he drives. I mean he just goes all out, no holding back, and I have no idea what's hit me by the time it's over. Well enough about me, what's been new with you?"

....I'm blushing....

I would say...opps it probably would be edited by don it's terrible

I've thought of all the things I would say to my baby's father and they would be to the point and cruel but the truth. I've had my peace w/my 8yrs sons father. We ge along now even thou he does not see my son at all. I guess i'm tired of hating my frist X LOL

I'm glad to know I'm not the only one that thinks about that. Ok I'm not werid. LOL

SPIRIT

OMG, I thought I already replied to this but I must be losing my mind. I think I am ADD today. Just today though.

I have to see my X whenever I drop my son off every other weekend. I have so much to say, but it hurts to bad to let it out. I can't tell how him how bad he hurt me with out falling apart. If I told him, I would have to admit to myself how devistated I am.

alim, I dont know how you do it. I would still be a total wreck if I had to see my ex like that. It takes a lot for me to keep my mouth shut around Kai but I have to. I hope that you can get past those feelings and be able to deal with it better. It doesn't help though when the other sides instigates things either. I understand.

I haven't ever told him because he wouldn't ever admit anything was his fault. I have done everything I could to keep things civil, even though he did so many things wrong. He has started to be a real jerk. I try not to call him at all, but sometimes I have to for my son. He will not answer my phone calls. Then he will call later and yell at me on my voice mail. I don't know how to deal with it. He has hurt me so bad and continues to and yet all he can see is his needs. He tells me I am at fault for the divorce. Even though he is the one who did drugs, quit a great career, din't call for three weeks, cheated on me, and so on. He tells me marriage is for better or worse. He says it hurts to talk to me. You know what is hard, worrying about money, working, school, my son's constant needs, etc. While he lives on the beach with his new rich girlfriend. He doesn't work, but travels the world.

Sorry I went on and on. I am just having a bad week.

I understand. Please vent to me all you want hon. I am here to listen and give any advice if wanted. I hope your week gets better.