...maybe that would help him think a little better about our sitution!

He calls me on Friday and asks if I will be home for a while. I was like yeah I think I should be. I was pleasent a nice even thou he is the one that deserted me when he found out I was pregnate. Anyways he shows up w/his mess up SON!! After I told him I did not want his son at my house by no means. Still defys me like my 8yr son! For those of you that do not know there was a serious issue that happened between my son and his son. Ended up my son had to go thru therapy and is still dealing w/it. I have not problem w/him daughter but can't stand his son for obivious issues.

He shows up around 7pm and just comes into my house w/out knocking and expects me to help him find this ice skates that were left there. HELL NO! I told him if he wants them bad enough he will look in the two places I suggest for himslef. I just stood there and watch he struggle w/my cloest. Trust me my closets are not a nice place to look thru! They are a chatch all LOL. I very much enjoyed it. He son decieds he is allowed into my son's bedroom and starts rummaging thru his things. Do you think dad stops him NO! I walked right up to him and said excuse me but you do not belong in here get out. I was rude but why should I be nice right?!

So then my X is asking me about when the next US is for the baby. Is it kicking alot. Very interested in the whole pregnacy thing. I was like ok I'll be nice and take it as it comes.

Oh and another was that he just used my bathroom w/out asking. My Best Friend friend will as least say hey I'm using your BR and uses it! He has not respect for me, my son or my house.

Anyways we chat about the baby and then he starts turning nasty. Tells me to account for where my money went when he was here and were its going now! I was like not of your bussiness! For your info it goes to this new baby that's coming, my son and my bills! OF couse the concept of bills and expense of children does not hit him b/c he does not deal w/that. His best friend feels sorry for him and let's him and his son stay there for free! LOSERS!!

He says well I think your money is going toward durgs and even when we were together. At this point You can see the steam coming from ears!!!! I'm not a durg user as far as herion, coke, pills, and drugs along that line. I certainly would not start now b/c i'm pregnate. I tell him in a calm quite voice that I am drug free and have not even drank a drop of beer since March! May I remind you that I quite going out b/c you were living here and I chose to stay home w/you!!! He is such an ***!!! I was like lets go test me now at the hospital the only drug they wil find in me is my inhaler for asthma and my prenatal vitamins!

If that was not enough to call me a drug addict in my own home and but decides to really blow my top and call me a liar and deny our baby in my OWN HOME!!! He said he would be at my house every day if he thought this baby was his. Keep in mind he had been asking question about my pregnancy and wanting to name the baby and be there for the birth. Now in the last 10mins of this conversation he denys our baby. I'm still calm up my voice has raised a few octaves but i refuse to scream and yell at him. He said his X wife deservers more respect than me b/c they were married when there kids were born! I ignored that snotty remark asked Y he thought this baby was not his. Get this ONE! B/C I said that I had slept w/a man the weekend b4 I met him in October04 that it could be this man's baby. Ok frist off I told him do the math...I got pregnate in March due in Dec. DUH Second this man that I slept with BEFORE I meet him the following wkend was a good friend of mine and has had a vascetomy for the past five yrs. DONT THINK he will be having any babies any time soon. I still used a condom and was on brith control when I had slept w/him. I was like so you're calling me a lair and a Ho in my house! He said you have such a small mind I did not say that. DUH I think you did. Don't you agree!?!?!?!

Thru this whole 10min beat me up emotionally and mentaly assult I remianed as calm as I could and said that I did not want to fight w/him. Please stop being mad at me and accsuing me of being a lair and a durg user in my own home.

I lost it when he left. As he pulled out of my driveway I flipped him off w/both fingers and twice. Childish yes but I was sick of being the nice level headed mature one out of this sitaution. He say me. YES, I HAVE TO ADMIT I ENJOYED IT!!!

I guess I'm confused b/c I don't understand why he is being so cruel. Why can't he just believe me and not all if his dumb friends?! How could he just disrespect me in my home!?!? :angry: I pay the rent not him. I live here not him.

The way I have to look at it is my day will come in Court when he makes my sweet baby get picked for blood to prove he is the father. I wont get an apolgy from him but I will have the satifaction fo knowing I was not the lair.

I don't want him back. I just want that respect and willing to help me out w/the baby and the things I need. I guess I can only rely on my friends, family, mom and stepdad t help me out. Which BTW I'm so excited my mom picked up the rest of my baby stuff for my baby shower so now I have my bassinet and carseat waiting for me at her house for the baby shower!!! She told me last night and I was so excited to see it. I can't wait to rummage thru all the stuff I put on. She can be so good to me at times. I LOVE HER SO MUCH!!

Back to the X!!! This one is for you Dali if you read this....When my X walked in and I really looked at him I thought you're good looking and you have a damn nice truck but I don't want you back. I honestly did not. I just wanted to have him accept our coming baby and to be a part of our baby's life. I don't know how long this feeling will alast but Dali it was the greatest feeling. I did not need to have him want me. Trust me I enjoyed I hope you get this feeling Dali!!

I guess right now I'm a very mad angry pissed when hen or as the saying goes. My feathers a very ruffled b/c he disrespected in my own home by calling me a lair, drug addict and brining his son.

He got mad b/c I was not nice to his son?! Why should I be?! I wanted to run up and punch his son in the face and yell at him how he could do this to MY SON YOU LITTLE PIG! It seems like a horrible thing say but those of you that remember the stituation know Y I feel this way.

Ok I've ranted enough just had to get my angry out about this. OMG do I REALLY HATE MY X!!!! I've decied to cut off any communication that I have tried to keep open. If he wants to be immature about it than I've had enough. I've had enough stress from him. I just want to wash my hands of him for now and contentrate on my son and coming baby. Is that wrong? I've tried very hard to keep him invovled but he resists me and comes up w/stupid crap to piss me off! I'm assuming its ok to take a deep breath,exhale and just free my hands of his crap. I'll just wait unitl the courts decied to tell him he is the dad and do a partnety test. It sounds great to me. What do all of you think? My friends and mom say that I should just not allow him to come around me at all. I can do that right b/c the baby is not here yet and he is denying the baby. I should have every right!

Enough rambleing. Thanks for reading Hey look at the bright side I only cried for about 1/2hour and then just stopped that quivering lip and got very angry and mad! I just need to move on w/my life and just leave him behind. Come on can't I just kick him in the Hoo-Hoo so his brain can get a jump start!?!??! Plus it would be fun ***evil/innocent Grin****

SPIRIT

Oh Spirit,

I am so very sorry you had to deal with that C*** from him. You did not deserve that and he is a major a*****e.

Just keep in mind, you have a good thing now without him and although you are like some of us who will have to keep dealing with this stuff from time to time, you are a very strong woman and a very good mum. You can deal with all the things he throws at you. Keep on being so strong and give your precious little ones the wonderful life you want them to have.

Spirit, I don't even know where to start, if I wasn't having surgery tomorrow my bags would be packed and I would be on I80 on my way east and I gaurentee you that after I gave you a big hug, I would track his sorry hind end down and do more than kick him in the HOO-HOO. And when I was done with him I'd drag him and his evil little spawn back to your door on their bellies, and make them knock and beg for your forgiveness even though they don't deserve.

GGGRRRRRRRR I am so PO'D right now, I can't believe the nerve of that guy. I just wanna break something. My ex may be manipulative, but what he did is sick and disgusting. I am so sorry, to all you ladies that there are males out there that act that way. That is not how a real man acts, denying that he the father of your baby, calling you a drug addict, and bringing that child into your home after what he did. Makes me want a stiff drink and a smoke.

My advice to you keep your door locked from now on and don't ever let him in again, and if he does barge in with out permission, call the police and have his rear arrested for breaking and entering, tresspassing and anything else the police can throw at him.

God I'm ticked, I need to go take 5.

Steel Toed Boots!

Hey Scoutmom, RoadTrip!!!

Spirit~

This guy knows just how to push your buttons, hon. I agree with Dali ... if you can, just keep your door locked, and don't let him in. If he can not respect you & your son, why bother? Wait till the baby is born, and you have your day in court. Hoping that he will change on his own, well, we both know that you are more likely to win the lottery.

My ex called me last week when I was sick as a dog with a kidney infection, and told me that they were going to turn off his lights, his phone, and that it would be in my best interest to pay his life insurance... and I said, IF you don't have any utilities, then Nicolas needs to live with me --- and he went off. He got to the part about taking me back to court and I just hung up on him.

Bottom line, some people are only nice when they want something - or are getting what they want from you... and the minute you stand up for yourself - they turn ugly, mean, and rude!

Hang in there gf, and good to see ya vent away... good self therapy

Hugs

hmmmm....... Myself.. steel-toed boots+hoo hoo makes alot of happy other people (evil grin) Normally don't go that route, but for him I think I'd make an exception. Seriously... refuse to talk to him... to have anything to do with him and his little spawn from h e double hockey sticks. After the baby is born you'll have to deal with him.. but maybe by then he'll get the idea that you won't deal with his crap. If he tries to bother you tell him to stick it where the sun don't shine.... And I ssssoooooooo wish I were closer... I'd like to kick him in the hoohoo for you! And he's not doing the 8 yr old any favors... I think it's probably alot(just from what I've heard on this thread) due to his father's behavior.. the 8 yr old is learning it... too bad... the dad will have to deal with it later 100fold... Thank goodness you are not with him and therefore won't have to deal with it either. Keep strong and just focus in on you and your kids...

He's just trying to get to you any way he can. He wants you to be miserable because he's a miserable little excuse for a man. If he can't make you miserable wanting him back, then he's going to make you miserable by irritating you until you just can't take it anymore. So just don't take it. You're strong, you've been through more than a lot of people. You can certainly get through this. Get a restraining order. He's harrassing you and abusing you and your son in your own home. Show him you mean business and you're through letting him get to you.

And hey, if that doesn't get the message across, it appears we have a whole posse here ready to do some serious steel-toed hoo-hoo kickin'! Sign me up!

Normally I would advicate that a child has the right to know both parents...but in this case, I honestly think he shouldn't have any contact with the baby... my first instinct when reading your post, beside thinking "what an *** hole!" was that if he doesn't have enough respect for you and your son to keep his son away from you after his son abused your son, I can't imagine how careful he'd be if he actually had unsupervised visits witht he baby... Minor or not, issues or not, his son is a *** offender...and what is to stop his son from abusing your baby? Your ex certainly isn't going to...

I say let him deny the baby all he wants. It's safer that your precious new baby not have him in their life... jmho...

Honeybee had a good point, Spirit. If he doesn't have the respect to keep his son away from your son, I would be worried about unsupervised visits with the new baby. He really does sound like someone who has absolutely no idea what boundaries are. Lock your doors, from now on. Don't give him the opportunity to just walk right in your home with his vermin offspring. They sound like bullies, just walking in your home and walking around like they own the place. What was the point of his visit? Do you really think he was looking for his ice skates? Sounds like him and his son were bored and needed to go antagonize someone for awhile. You don't need this now, Spirit. Don't take the bait, just don't talk to him. Don't ALLOW him to disrespect you and your home. Let Dali go kick his butt.

It sounds as though you should just have no contact with him. But that is how I deal with jerks. I feel for you and I hope things get better.

OMG...here I am at work and reading everyones post and just laughing about everyone and the steel toed Hoo-Hoo kicking butt thing. TOO FUNNY!!!! I'm imagining everyone w/steel toed boots marching down the road and ready to kick my X in the Hoo-Hoo! THANKS GUYS!

Dali thank you for the ticked off support. It's nice to know there are guys out there that caring. I have one thing Anger management LOL Just Kidding. BTW not sure what your surgery is for but hope it goes ok. Good luck on Dali! I will hold you to that big hug and sorry rear end kicking.

Everyone is so right my X is just ticked b/c he knows I don't want him back. I guess he expects me to be begging on my knees w/tears in my eyes. I was not like that the couple times when he called and when he stopped by. I'm SO PROUD OF MYSELF!I worry everyday about if he had unspervised visits w/the baby how attentive he would be to feeding it and taking care of it. I guess I deal with that when my baby is here not now right?!

He shows me no respect or my son no respect when he brings his son around my house or just comes into my house and does whatever he wants. LOSER!!!

But I'm happy b/c I know I don't want him back and I can do this on my own! YEAH ME!!! It's great to know I have so many friends here to support me.

It's a great feeling knowing that he can't break my heart the same way he was able to do back in June or July. I think he knows that and hates the fact that I am able to put up my guard and not need him. I'm strong unlike many of the females in his life and he has no idea of how to handle me. It's a cool feeling.

:thanks:

SPIRIT

the hoo-hoo....the hoo-hoo....I've been looking in my 'Gray's Anatomy' text and I can't find it. Is that a Latin term perhaps?

LOL Binarian.

i'm the funniest guy I know