I live in a very small town. My Ex, his new girlfriend, and I all live in the same building (For now, I'm moving in January). It seems to me like he's always trying to rub things in my face. His new girlfriend lives only three doors down from me and I see him outside there all the time. Every time I see her she stairs at me. It's really starting to get old. He does the same thing... kind of with an ashamed look on his face but regardless it gets mighty annoying. I try my hardest not to see him, or talk to him. It's just so hard because we have a lot of the same friends and like I said we live in the same building. We go to the same places, we eat at the same restaurant, and we shop in the same stores. And it seems like anywhere I go there he is, staring at me. When I do call him (to talk about legal issues, or doctors appointments) it's like he wants to keep me on the phone telling me everything going on in his life. And I really don't want to hear it, especially if it has to do with his new girlfriend (who he swears is just a friend, but thats not what she and all of our friends say). It seems like he tells me such pointless things that sometimes he's going to tell what kind of underwear he's wearing. It's getting old and I don't know how to deal with it. He really bothers me. I don't know if it's just my hormones because I'm pregnant or if it's a legitimate annoyance.

Okay he is just trying to get to you!!! Do not let him or the "girlfriend bother you. She is a worthless as him! YOu can tell her I said so okay! Secound unless you have to I would not move, I mean why should everything in your life change? Make him move or better yet let him stay aand see you living your life, with out him!! Let him see you with a new guy friend, le thim see you happy. And the next time you call him to tell him about a doctors appt. Leave it just to that. " Hi I am calling to tell you I am having a ultrasound at 3:00pm if you wanna come come. Well thats all I called for talk to you later BYE!" That is all that needs to be disscussed. All other topics are point less and are just going to get you upset! I fhe upsets you then in turn he wins. You already know that since he is in the army your child support issue is going to be taken care of, the Govenment will make sure to that. So no need to be the nice one.. HE should be the one bieng nice to you. Turn the tables, the ball is in your court, you have the power!!!
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It seems to me that he's trying to get to you on purpose, and that's exactly what it's doing; and I can see why. Of course it's going to be hard seeing your child's father with anyone else, or to hear how good his life is going. Act like your happy from him or simply tell him that you're not interested in his life.

I can agree with both the ladies and have opinions of my own. He (1) may not be as happy as he's making it out to be because if that were the case, he wouldn't deny the fact that he's even in a relationship. He's making things in his situation seem picture perfect and it may not even be close to that. (2) he may want to remain on your "good" side (per-say) because he may want to have his cake and eat it to. He can very well be denying his relationship with this girl because he may want to see if he can still keep you "interested" while having someone else there as well. Do what you have to do for you and your child, he seems helpless. As for his girlfriend staring at you...she might be intimidated by you. I mean, you're carrying his child (the "man" she's with)and knows that you'll be in his life whether she likes it or not. She has to deal...

Well, they did break up over this past weekend. So maybe all the dumbness will stop. It turns out she cheated on him with his roommate and his revenge was to cheat on her and tell her all about it being that she never told him (He's so mature). Still every time I see her she's watching my every move. I don't quite understand her and I really don't care to. He called me Monday and invited me over. We had a very good conversation about everything affecting our lives, and about the minor details of our relationship. Luckily we were both being very mature and we finally understand each other... Our friendship is doing a lot better. And I feel that we'll be able to have a healthy friendship for our child. But we'll see, I'm not due until April 3rd and any nubmer of retarded things could happen between now and then.