(somewhere other than myspace)

When I found out I was pregnant, I honestly thought it was a guy I had been dating since
Aug of 07. Thank God it WASN'T! Now that I want nothing to do with him I have found out so much stuff it is unbelievable!

I had told him to 'f' off in Feb. of this year because I found out he lied to me; he is in SD training before he goes to Iraq and after he went over there I find out he is seeing some chick and never bothered to tell me. Nor did he ever "call things off" with us; instead he continued to string me along. During this time, I started putting pieces together, as we were still together which led me to telling him to 'f' off. Besides me, his "ex's" or gals he was dating were ALWAYS long distance! Interesting, I thought!

In Jan. he told me this chick from VA said she was pg with his child even though his sperm barely works. Today she emails me and tries to start **** with me and I held my composure letting her know that I really don't care about him and if I was "stalking" him from Aug-Feb why in the world did he take me out on my bday, on dates, take me to the Marine ball, invite me over to his house, watch my house while I was gone over xmas, etc. Of course she had no reply to that!

I'm laughing about this because all these girls are getting played by a guy who has nothing to offer but at the same time I'm wondering how in the world this chick got my myspace url. Even if you know my first and last name, you cannot find me because I put in a different first and last name for privacy. She could have looked me up by email yes but how could she have gotten that? The only logical explanation is that HE started this (as usual--I have put 2 and 2 together on this as well and discovered he likes to start drama).

Should I prepare myself for filing a no-contact order on him and extending it to either her or other 'friends' or can I even do that?

I know now that I made a bad decision with this loser but at the time I had no idea what kind of person he was. I really want to just live my life and have nothing to do with him but I'm afraid he's "not done". When I tell someone to 'f' off I mean it...I want NOTHING to do with them anymore....but here he is alledgedly trying to start stuff again through "friends" or whatever she is to him.

Heh...I hope you feel better after the vent!

To answer your question-marked sentence, I think it'd be premature for you to start filing for no-contact orders. It sounds like you set this first woman straight, and hopefully she never comes back. If you start getting more harrassment, then I'd pursue the order. I'd record this event in a log, however, just in case you need it later.

Later,
Bobby

PS - I edited to remove a very important "not" that gave my sentence the opposite meaning than what I intended.

I don't know. She's obviously hurt and is taking it out on the wrong person. He played her just as much as he played you so I'm sure you can relate with her to a point.

If I were you, I'd ignore it. He's not the father of your child so there's no reason why you need to talk with him or any of his posse. If you don't want them talking with you then don't reply. They'll stop once they realize they're not getting anything from you so don't be tempted. I wouldn't say she's harrassing you either. I just think she's upset and is channelling it in the wrong direction. IMO

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Originally posted by BigBobby:
Heh...I hope you feel better after the vent!

To answer your question-marked sentence, I think it'd be premature for you to start filing for no-contact orders. It sounds like you set this first woman straight, and hopefully she never comes back. If you start getting more harrassment, then I'd pursue the order. I'd record this event in a log, however, just in case you need it later.

Later,
Bobby

PS - I edited to remove a very important "not" that gave my sentence the opposite meaning than what I intended.

You make a good point and I don't have enough info on this girl to do too much. I am however going to start making a paper trail. You can never be prepared enough. It's best to be one step ahead.

Miss Jes- actually by law, what she did is considered harassment and I was encouraged by the police to start a papertrail as BigBobby suggested = ) Internet laws have changed dramatically and even though it's "just written words" they are just as severe as her knocking on my door and doing this face to face.