hi i am going through a custody battle at the moment and because i work my ex thinks has a chance of getting our son full time, he thinks i am in a relantionship and says that will help his case he is being very nasty to me and keeps our son away from me as much as he can

can please anyone help me and tell me he is wrong

What he says is possible...There are many variables though....The relationship thing could be a big issue depending on the man in question. My ex was in a relationship when we went through custody too, and he was a big part of why she lost custody. It was a bit of an extreme case though...He had 3 felony charges, a current domestic battery charge, and several other things. With you being in a relationship, your BF could definitely be a factor. The fact that you work, should actually be in your favor. The only way that it could possibly work against you is if you wouldn't be able to be at home with your child...More than likely he is just trying to get you riled up....A little more information regarding your BF and your job would allow for a more direct answer....

i am a coach driver but only work weekdays and dont go away for days on end i work local so i am home at night.

my ex has been out of work for 3 years and has done nothing around the house in this time i have done it all but now he has decided to take his son out and to do a bit of cleaning, he tajes our soon out to try and put a wall between me and my son, it isnt working, i am not in a relationship my ex just thinks i am as i have a male friend

Your job shouldn't be an issue for the courts. That was the same excuse my ex used for wanting to take me to court and then I pointed out the things he hadn't/hasn't/wouldn't ever do and he dropped it. You'll have to define "male friend" here b/c that could mean any number of things. A guy that's strictly just a friend or a guy that you have an undefined relationship with? Any type of new relationships depending on who the other person is and what their past is like can have an affect on the court ruling if that individual spends time with your child. I hope things work out for you.

I'm so sorry - I can only imagine how draining a custody battle must be. How old is your son? Who does he currently live with? The courts will take into account who has been the primary caregiver for your child thus far.

Here's my question. He hasn't worked in 3 years.....what does he do for income? Does he think the courts will give him custody if he can't provide for your son? So what if you are working, you are providing necessary income to survive....what does he provide?

The part that worries me about your statement is that he keeps your son away from you as much as he can. It makes it sounds like he has your son the majority of the time. The courts will look at what is in the best interst of the child, so if the son is currently spending a majority of his time with his father than it may work against you. I had to leave a high level management job for a job that paid far less because I was required to work 60-70 hours a week. His father did not work but had gained employment by the time we went to court so it looked like he could be home more often. Not trying to scare you just preparing you for what could happen. I would keep a log of all the time you spend with your son because I am sure he will go in to court with one of his own. Good luck to you!

Tina, do you have an attorney? It sounds like you need one. I know they are expensive, but custody is just too important an issue to go without legal representation.