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The thing is, we'll never know why they're so disconnected with our children. We can spend countless hours coming up with every excuse in the world but realistically, we'll never find one that will justify their actions. For whatever reason, they're just not ready to be mothers/fathers and for many, they never will be.

His gf probably is jealous of you. I also think she feels threatened because you have a child together. Her actions aren't exactly rational either, bailing a man out of jail knowing he's bouncing back and forth between the two of you. She's not blind. If you say he harbours a lot of sociopathic characteristics, than I can imagine her relationship with him is far from perfect.

I know it's hard to move on from a relationship you cared about and despite how bad it may of been, there was a sense of comfort in it. I can only imagine the energy you invested in him, trying to understand his every move and decision. The bottom line is, your ideal family lifestyle has been shattered and the predictability has been lost. That's not an easy thing to swallow.

Try and give yourself some time. You're virtually mourning a loss and it's going to take more than a few weeks for the dust to settle, especially now that you have a child. If you're in the same class as his gf, know she's not happy with him either. I can almost guarantee it .. infact, consider her another victim in this. If she's bragging about their relationship it's only because she's trying to convince herself she has something good.

Look at your legal options. Has a custody ruling been set in place? If not, that might be something to look into. Apply for child support as well. Even if he "doesn't" work, he's going to need to provide the court proof on how he's supporting himself.

As far as him making you feel invincible, well, you broke up with him so he's seeking revenge. He also knows you have the upper hand which is why he's taking you to court all the time. It's all about power and the lower he makes you feel about yourself, the better he feels about his situation. He's classic text from the sounds of it. Nothing he says or does will surprise me and there's nothing creatively intelligent about him.

In the meantime, if you can't co-parent with him, try an email relationship instead. If there's anything either one of you need to know or share about your child, put it in an email. For one thing, it limits your contact with him; and secondly, it provides you the paper trail you'll need. If he's manipulative, have him put it in writing. As for you, try and preoccupy as much of your time doing other things with close family and/or friends. The more you do for yourself, the better off you'll be in the long run.

Hugs to you!

Thank you so much!! That really helped. I really don't feel the same about him and his gf is not much of an issue anymore.

Wow! What happened? I mean, that's great! lol

Your comment was right on target. I had to really work on myself and see things for how they are. My daughter is most important and I will not let him get to me anymore, not even the insecure girlfriend because I know that I do not want him and I am currently dating much better MEN. It took some time. We have been broken up for about a year now and he has put me through a lot and my feelings are fading away quickly now. I know my worth and he makes me sick more than anything and everything he has done to me is coming back to him! Call it KARMA. I do get angry and still wish he will grow up but since that is not likely, I work on myself and will be the best mom I can. Thanks jes.