My baby's dad just got back together with his ex. Now she is a evil person. She has hit him before and all they ever do is fight. She degrades everyone and is abusive. No one has ever had a nice thing to say about her, not his friends not his family. NO ONE!!!

When I first found out I was pregnant i made the effort and I met with her and I made my own decision about her.

I need help I will not allow her to be anywhere near my son HELP!!! How can I make sure this doesn't happen. can I get a restraining order? What if I moved? Please I just want to protect my son..... PLEASE HELP ME!!!!

Hello Kaden's mom:
Well I wouldn't advise on moving because it just running away from the problem. If your X is choosing to be with "this evil person" he is going to be with her no matter where you and the child move to.

Restraining orders are helpful especially if there is abuse/harrassment/stalking. That is a definite. My suggestion is talk to the police/attorney on grounds for your order. Make positive and proactive decision not re-active ones.

Are you sure about your feelings on this? Could it be she inspires a little jealousy and resentment? Trust me, we've all been there. My husband left me for an adulteress who looks like a crackhead in my opinion.

Do you think your ex is crazy enough to let her harm him or even display that crazy behavior around him?

If I am totally off base, my apologies. But you need to talk with him and share your concerns with him. Make him pay attention to the things that really bother you.

Yes I am sure about my feelings. i have thought about that as well - Is it just me, I'm not usually a jealous person.

But it is really hard to ignore it when everyone I have met has horrible things to say about her. His family - his friends - Not one person (even himself) has had anything nice to say about her. she is not welcome at his friends house anymore and of is his other friends wife said "if I ever see her again I'm going to punch her in the face" Now most of this is of course second hand. But my problem is that if she is this crazy and has abused him etc (someone she supposedly loves) What is she going to do to someone that she can't stand the existence of.

Do I really thing the father would let anyone hurt my son - no but he changes when he is with her. so Idk what will happen.

I have told him how I felt and he apparently doesn't care - I think he thinks I'm just jealous. At this point i don't care who he is with - just not her. If he could be with someone new - I could be hopeful that they are a good person.

I can only see things from a third-party perspective. I believe you when you say she's horrible, but she is occupying too much of your head space. She or whomever he dates should not be of this much concern. In talking to you, I am also talking to myself, mind you. The point is, we have no cause for concern unless something happens.

I am a firm believer in that you should not have to let someone harm your child before something is done about it but thats not the way things are at present time. I can't tell you if you are jealous because no one can tell you how you feel. But I can speak from my own experience. My ex's girlfriend tried to fight me on day while I had my baby in my arms because she was jealous that I had his child and ordered me to put the baby down and fight her. And I did not. I called the police and she got promptly arrested but my ex is still with her and takes my baby around her (drives her car to pick my daughter up in fact). I did go through stages of being jealous and did not want her around my child before that incident but I had to check myself. I want someone who will adore my child even if it is his girlfriend. And I can't stop him from being with her and to continue disliking her will do me nor my daughter any good. I also have felt like I wish he was with anyone but her (but someone who had common sense) but I can't make him do anything like the other posters have stated. So, I suggest that you try to play the friend game with her for the sake of your child. I would try to get to know her and be cordial to her and keep good communication with your ex. She may be nice to your child after she sees that you are not being mean to her. Act as if their relationship means nothin to you, be indifferent to that, but always be on gaurd. As a mom, I know we can spot potential dangers but try to have some faith that your ex will not let her harm your child and take the right course of action if she does. Hope this helps.