I need help. I need advice. I need something! I have been having major problems with my ex since we split up. I took him to court for supervised visitations, and ever since then things have gotten worse. They were fine while they had to be supervised, but now that we've gone through mediation and all, they have started pulling a bunch of crap again. There is always something new at each drop off/pick up. They twist things around that I voice my concern on to make it look like I am the one in the wrong, they make things up to make me look like a bad parent, and they attack me-both of them, with threats and accusations. It is getting ridiculous. I dread having to drop my son off or pick him up because I don't want to deal with them. There has to be something that I can do. Not only are they verbally attacking me, they are doing it in front of my son (2 1/2) and his wife's daughter (6). I'm sick of it and I need some advice on what I can do. I know I shouldn't let them bother me, because that is exactly what they want, but sometimes I just can't help it. And when I calm down and try calling him, his wife answers and refuses to let me talk to him. I tell her that I will not discuss these things with her, it is his and my son, not hers and she still tells me that it has as much to do with her as it does him. I've thought about putting a restraining order against her for me even. If they have a problem, she'll call me and cuss me out. This past weekend, I had to be out of town and it was his weekend to take our son. We set up a meeting place in a town in between here and where I was to be staying because I was babysitting and couldn't bring all the kids with me, and his wife was going to be in that town anyway. Things were fine when I left. My mother ended up dropping our son off, and when I got him back tonight, they both starting laying into me about having to meet me in at a different place. Saying it was contempt of court and what not. I'm sorry, but the last weekend it was his weekend to be with our son, he called and left a message saying that he worked that weekend and didn't want to have to drive after working so he would just wait until the next weekday visitation to see him...if anything is contempt of court, that would be correct? They agreed without a problem to meet me in the other town. I had no say in whether or not he saw our son that weekend. I could go on and on about all the things they have been pulling. Dropping our son off late, calling me and telling me they will be dropping him off at a different time-not asking, all kinds of crap. that i don't need to deal with. It is hard enough being a single parent. Hope someone out there can help me. Thanks! ~B

I hope thing have gotten better.

Can you set up a pubic place to exchange the children. That might minimise the verbal assault. If they do verbally assault you then the public establishment can do something about it. It will have a legal right in doing so. This may discourage them from acting out and govern themselve better.

Peace
Robin

To prove this abuse I was told to keep a detailed journal of the abuse. Write the date and time and what exactly happened. Don't forget to add your response to make it look less bias. Tape record conversation with he's wife as well as saving nasty messages. Write that they dropped him off late and be very precise but only facts not feelings. Then after you feel there is enough evidence give it to your lawyer to be discussed in court. ps always try to keep your cool and avoid discusions that she can use against you.