ok im probably worrying way into the future but please humour me ( i am a worrier when it comes to my little girl)
k basically ive been thinking that when i can afford it id like to take amber away for a week somewhere. i know at some point my ex (who is a fantastic dad) will want to do the same. tonight is the first night she has stayed there cause him and his girlfriend have just moved into their own place. apparently she has settled fine which im so glad about BUT even though it prob wont be yet anyway she has never gone more than a few hours without seeing me (when im working or whatever). im afraid that if some point he wants to take her away it will be too hard for her to be without her mum for a whole week. it would break my heart if she was missing me and she couldnt come back cause she was abroad or whatever. at what age do u think something like that would b ok? i was thinking maybe at 6 or 7 when she is old enough to understand. i mean she has gone nearly a week at times without seeing her dad and although i know he misses her it is me she sees every day cause she lives with me.
( i know i will be a wreck without her but it is her im thinking about in this and i know i will need to let her and her dad have this relationship - im really glad he is so great with her and i realise how lucky i am). i just feel that she is too young for a while for something like this. any opinions?

Also does any1 ever worry about their little ones getting too close to their ex's new partner? i love my ex's new girlfriend to bits. she is lovely and we get on great and amber loves her too which i am really glad about but i dont want now that she can stay over there and stuff for her to forget i am her mummy!! sad i know but like i said im a worrier!!

I think the sooner the better. If she has never gone away before 6 or 7, she will be scared to death. My son started to visit my parents alone at the age of 6 months. All he knew, was that he had a grandma and grandpa fussing and adoring him. She may miss you a bit, but the one who is really worried is you missing her. Kids handle change much better than adults. You have realize that she needs her dad as much as she needs you. As far as her getting close to another woman, that is hard to handle. Just think of it this way, you are her only mummy. She is just blessed to have so many people who love and adore her.

yea that makes sense actually. i was just worried that at this age she wouldnt understand where i had gone.
omg i totally agree she needs her dad as much as me and i encourage that relationship 100%.i always have made every effort to make sure im here whenever he can come over even if short notice and to give him as much 'daddy time' as he can manage. i would be of the same opinion if she was living with him and been more used to not seeing me every day ya know?
she is lucky to have so many people who love her. thats why i still make an effort for her to see all my ex's family still and keep in touch with them myself.
im also really glad that ex's gf is so great with her but its just hard seeing her go off with them sometimes cause i dont want her to forget who mummy is u know? just me being a worrier lol

No, your feelings are completely understandable. I feel the same way at times. I too, worry non stop. Just try to remember who will miss who the most. She will be fine, trust me. Also, you sound like a great mom. You are just trying to do what is best for her.

thanku chick