So my ex and I have been apart for.... well going on a second year. We have two girls ... the last year he has hardly been around for them , and when he is it's trouble. He is so unstable and has not helped financially at all since we split.Court is in 2 days( finally after a year of trying to serve him) about child support.

My oldest daughter sat me down last night and said ... Mom, dad called me and said his girlfriend is 3 months pregnant.

I almost fell off my chair , I did not know whether to laugh or scream profanity . We have 2 kids that he doesn't even help buy clothes for , and now a baby on the way...

My god .. I hate the court system here , and hate the fact that fathers can just screw off forgeting about the shared responsibilty they "were" a part of.

Now some other kid will be left without help , along with the 2 I work my *** off for everyday.


Sorry , I'm pissed off. Needed to rant .

I know where you are coming from. my ex has only seen kayley once for about of hours. I have some problems serving him paternity/child support paperwork. I learned about a couple of months ago his wife/girlfriend was 3 months pregnant and he left her. or verus vice. I don't remember. the legal system will caught up with him. I'm so tired of hearing about deadbeat fathers who can't responsiblity. Keep your faith!

ty for your reply .

I'm trying to keep the faith.And I'm prayin for the day that the legal system stops protecting deadbeat parents, and starts protecting the children that are left behind.

I know that washington is somewhat strick with child support orders. I received word they pulled his legal license to get him to make his payments. they made him pay high amount to get his license back. its also stated if he misses a payment again they will pull it again. they required amount to be missed.

I'm sorry to hear that your ex is an idiot. It would seem that most court systems are junk and I'm irritated by the fact that there are so many court systems that are "slow." I hope something comes out good from this soon.

I can't stand deadbeat parents.

As much as I hate to say it, there isn't much you can do besides keep doing what you're doing. The court system is outdated and very inefficient. It's very frustrating for the custodial "responsible" parent.
My X was behind on her child support while she was pregnant with another child (not mine) so she told the court she was going to be a "stay at home" mom and had no plans of going back to work once the baby was born, they dropped her support totally on my daughter. I wasn't getting much help to begin with but now I get absolutely none. I've learned quickly not to depend of the FOC for anything.

update -


after lying to the judge about making under 80k a year he was demanded by the judge to bring forth his tax assements which equaled 130k a year. We got just over 1,000 a month which is fine with me .... I would have been happy with 500.....regardless the system still has no faith from me. I have a beleive it when I see it attitude.

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My god .. I hate the court system here , and hate the fact that fathers can just screw off forgeting about the shared responsibilty they "were" a part of.

Mothers do it too. I guess it's part of human nature. I think those of us that are responsible and loyal get taken advantage of by those who aren't.

I feel horrible , yes mothers do it too , I guess being on the female side ... saying "fathers" comes naturally. But I do acknowledge that women are just as bad , if not worse sometimes.Just wanted to clear that up.

Well, I've often wondered what it would be like if my ex-wife was pregnant. That runs through my head every time she says "I have something to tell you". I know it's her choice but it would be a kick in the gut for me as I'm trying to get her to provide some financial support and take more interest in our kids.

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Originally posted by smshybug:
I'm sorry to hear that your ex is an idiot. It would seem that most court systems are junk and I'm irritated by the fact that there are so many court systems that are "slow." I hope something comes out good from this soon.

I can't stand deadbeat parents.

me too! I'm so lucky that i have a good attorney/good case worker ... my attorney keeps the case worker on his toes. its pretty much stated in paperwork ... if he misses the payment she wants to know about it

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Originally posted by Michail:
Well, I've often wondered what it would be like if my ex-wife was pregnant. That runs through my head every time she says "I have something to tell you".

I'll never forget the day I found out my ex was having another baby:

Binta: I have a brother.

Me: No, you don't have a brother, sweetie.

Binta: Yes, I do.

Me: No, you don't.

Binta: Yes, I do. [Ex's girlfriend] told me. It's inside her stomach.

Me: [no response, mouth hanging agape]

Michail, at least you trust your ex enough to tell you personally! Finding out from your kid in an embarrassing conversation like this is not fun!

Yes, there are times she treats me like the friend I used to be to her. Even if its rare.

I know she's done with having children but the thought of that would add insult to injury when I'm trying to keep her interested in the ones she has. Still, it runs through my head every time it looks like she's wanting to say something.