Hey guys i'm new on here but here goes,do i have the right to feel upset I have a one year old and two year old by my ex., and just found out his new woman is now already pregnet!!! i just found out about a day ago and have been feeling sick to my stomach,he left me for her.... his choice not mine if i had a choice i would have keept my family toghther.How do i deal with this and not only that.... he was atleast trying to be part of his kids life, till recently when the new one got pregnet.Now he distances his self,how if anyone has been thru this do you cope?And if he pushes my kids out his life because of his new child???? ....It's just been hard since i found out please give me any help ya can thanks.Mabey i'm feeling bad also cause my kids are still so young this is not how i wanted this story to end up but unfortunatly it did.

I haven't had to deal with this kind of situation but seeing it from a different point of view, the following is just my opinion:

First off I guess, how long have you been apart?

I know its hard that he left you and I know its hard to think that he's having a child with another person but honestly, it is his life and he will do what he wants. No matter what you try to get him to do. He will do what he wants.

I would say the best thing you can do is be there for your children. Raise your children in the best possible way you can. Do your best. Love them, let them know you love them and be there for them. When they ask questions, give simple answers to them as they are still extremely young and wont understand much.

If he makes the decision to abandon your children, I say do what you can with the court system and then move on in every other part of your life from him. He only needs to know about your children and that's it.

Easier said than done. I guess more information would be needed in order to really give you an opinion of what to do.

I'm so sorry that happened.

I wouldn't let his choices define who you are. Pick yourself up and go on with your life.

Oh, this must hurt so much!! I know just how you feel.

I don't know what it is with men these days, but I see so much of it.
Men who go through a pattern of having one or two kids with one woman, abandon them, then go on and repeat the pattern with the next woman.

Allow yourself to feel the pain (e.g.late at night when the kids are in bed) and concentrate only on you and your kids in the meantime.

You will come out of this on top, I am sure.
You (and we all) deserve so much better!!

My Ex did this to me, but he got the other women pregnant when my daughter was 2-3 months old and while we were still together. Our relationship had been dying for a while, but we were (at least I thought and he was telling me) trying to fix it. I tried as hard as I could for the kids to keep our relationship together but he wanted someone else in bed.
We are now divorced, my daughter just turned 1 and he is expecting his son to arrive later this month. He is still wanting to be in my children's lives. To me, that is actually making things more difficult. First, I feel like he is teaching the kids (My 2, the other women's child a 1 year old boy, plus the baby to be)that it is perfectly fine to break up a family as long as you get what you want. Second, he keeps asking me to go swimming with him and the other women and all the kids. He then tries to guilt me saying "I just think this is the best for the kids". like I did not try to do what was best for the kids at all.
Like I said earlier, our relationship was dying for a while, plus he was really like raising another child, so I am not upset about losing him for myself. But it still hurts when I think about the kids. I also hurt when I see the other women, don't really need that rubbed in my face. If your Ex is dropping out of your life, know that it is not the worse thing. Later you will find someone that will be a good father for your kids.