Okay so Im getting my son ready for school this morning and he starts crying his stomach hurts. Now he's been pulling this all week so i get him ready and we are walking to school.

He tells me he got he got hit in the stomach playing ball. I asked him what happened and he says he was playing suicide handball with his dad and his brother. (My ex had visitation this weekend)

Now he's 9 & his brother is 13. Apparently his genius father thought this was a good idea to play. My ex hit him in the stomach with the ball.

He is a grown man and here he is playing suicide handball with a 9 yr old? In his mind they need to be "men". We have had countless arguments about how rough he plays with the kids. Things he allows them to do that he shouldnt etc.

I understand how you feel. I used to get so mad when he allowed her to do something that coudl hurt her or soemthing that was not obviously allowed at my house- like walk two blocks alone to a playground or jump in a 6 foot deep pool when she does not not how to swim.

How do you get the other half to understand your feelings? They seem to think we are just being bitc---s but what we are really saying is how much we love our children and want to trust them that our children will be safe with them in our absence. I think it is a trust thing mainly.

I would just document everything- every converstation you have with your son and your ex- everything. And pray- that nothing serious will happen.