My ex is in serious need of a reality check. We've been getting along fairly well recently and I thought we were making progress in the right direction...but then he goes and does something that makes me remember exactly why I had to get rid of him. He always only thinks of himself first and then everyone around him later...to include our three children. In less than two months I'll be on a plane for the second time in less than a year for some forsaken third world country. Not only is he refusing to take care of his own children while I go and do my job...which by the way pays for all of our children's medical care...but he won't even watch our oldest son for a week for me to go to training. Footnote our oldest son is a diabetic so he can't just stay with anyone like the other two can b/c whoever he stays with has to be trained to take care of him. His excuse again is work. Well in my opinion you can reschedule things at work to take care of your son. His excuse has always been work, or school, or hockey, or whatever he can think of to get out of actually doing what he needs to be doing. Explain to me how I can work full time in the military, own a home, raise three kids, go to school and get ready for a deployment without help, but he can't get off his sorry rear to take care of just one of our children for one week. 5 days of his life. There are days I wonder what I ever saw in this man and know that only three wonderful things came out of that marriage and at least I get to raise them to be the men they should be instead of the man he isn't. Sorry but I just had to get that off my chest.