Well, I've posted a few other topics in the forum. I'm just venting here today. The father of my unborn has kept calling me & last night.. I was all crying & upset cuz I had to tell him he was 80% of my stress! The man did not get it! It's good that he wants to be involved w/ the pregnancy & stuff, but my gosh~it's only been less than 20 days since I kicked him out. He doesn't seem to realize or maybe know me that well, to see that I'm the kinda gal that needs 'quiet time' when there's a stressful situation (like the one I'm in now). I can't get my head on straight because he keeps calling/texting me. He's not threatening me or anything like that, just offering to help, listen, whatever. Thing is..I don't feel as strongly about our 'relationship' as he does & he told me last night that he believes once the baby is born-I'll level out, as he puts it. Which to me means that I'll come to my senses & want to get back w/ him. Right now, I can't say Yes to that~I can't say yes to anything right now. I've realized a few key things in this time we've been apart & I do enjoy my time w/ my son, doing my own thing & all.
Anyways, thanx for the ear
Kat

Turn your phone off for a couple of hours and there is no law saying you have to talk to him if you don't want to or answer texts. You could get a different number, leave the old one on, and let him call away.....

I agree that you should turn off your phone. Just ignore him. Or see if you can change your number if that's an option.

You could be like Dawn and shut the phone off, and move and not tell him. Worked for her.

yeah it worked wonders for me!! I shut off my cellphone, threw my simcard out the window... and I transfered to a new place where my ex couldnt find me. Now he's totally out of my life.

Ah... what peace and what freedom!!

Thanx for the good words here. Wish I could toss the cell out the window, I use it maybe a half hour a week. I could move in w/ my aunt, she's always had an open door. I hate the thought of living on someone else, liked my own space, ya know? I may just have to **** it up sooner than later because I told him that I'd meet him tomorrow @ 7pm for him to give me $. It was my idea for the meeting but my aunt (gratfully) reminded me that controllers will try anything & everything when they have you around them to keep you there. That last Friday when he came over unexpectedly to visit? He was all hugging on me, touching me, turning my face towards him... Don't think that the light could've gotten any brighter on that then when my aunt told me of her story. I don't know why I let myself into that situation, I was smart to end it, but what about after baby is born? I still have no intention of being in a relationship w/ him. Will he try & use the child for control? What the heck do I do about that? The truth hurts & I was crying all about the truth after hanging up w/ my aunt.

Kitkat..how did you feel about him before the pregnancy? Did you find that your feelings changged when you got pregnant or did you always feel that way about him?

Kitkat,
I feel like I am so in the same situation as you. I just do not feel the same about my babies daddy as I did before. He keeps trying and I could care less. I told him yesterday that I wanted a divorce and to be done with im and he is doing pretty much what your is doing. Oh after the baby comes you will change your mind. You will regreat leaving me. No what I regreat is getting involved with you PERIOD!
Hit me up on myspace if you wanna talk.

Yea!~this man in my life will not take a hint! I've figured out that I'm not doing anyone a service by continuing to talk to him 'peacefully'. It's not gonna work. I don't know what I was expecting from him while talking to him peacefully. I guess some things cannot have peace like that & it's gonna hurt & has hurt severing ties w/ him regarding any hope of a relationship w/ him. I realized though, that asking myself that question posted earlier: What'd I think of him before pregnancy was all too easy. Not much. It was cuz he was instantly controlling & rushing it all. He said he thought we had a good friendship to start. Psht-toss that out the window!