but i'm still pissed

My ex has Jewel this evening because my car was on it's last leg and I had to buy a new one. I assumed it would be like it always is...she's at the house, 5 minutes away. So after I buy the car I call the house. No answer. I try again an hour later. No answer. (he doesn't have a cell). My phone rings shortly after and it's a long distance number. It was him. He drove my daughter to Columbus today to help his aunt move. For those of you who aren't from Ohio, Cleveland to Columbus is about a three hour drive. He never once mentioned to me that he would be doing this. He drove half way through the state with my daughter and didn't tell a single soul. They were heading back home at 9 p.m. and he said he'd call when they were back. Thing is..the man drinks and he's not responsible about driving when he's drunk. He said he didn't have anything to drink, nor did he SOUND drunk, but still!! Now i'm a nervous wreck. It's dark, it's rainy and he's driving on a highway possibly drunk with my child.

Yes, it's nerve-wrecking - but try not to think the worst, she'll be fine.

well, I don't think you are overreacting.
I would've been furious too!

Also cos it's during the week and(I presume) she has school in the morning, and has a regular bedtime.

He "broke the contract" by not telling you that he was planning this.
Plus the fact that he doesn't have a "cell" (mobile to me), so that you can keep in touch with your daughter when she is not at his house.

I hope you can make some sort of arrangement with him that he always lets you know what the plans are when she goes over there (i.e. if he is going off somewhere with her).

I don't think you are over reacting. You love your daughter and want her to be safe. I can't imagine how nerve wracking it must have been not to know if she was safe for all that time.

I think it would be a great idea if you can contract with him to atleast call before he goes anywhere unexpected like this.

Chris

Nervewracking for sure...it simply is disrespectful to now have warned you about it. Your not overreacting, but in the meantime, think positive things...

easier said then done of course..

needless to say I would be just as furious simply for the lack of respect. Moving days are usually planned and he really had no excuse to not have known about this and to tell you about it.

I would so be pissed too! How did things go?

Fine. They got home in one piece thankfully. I was a nervous wreck though. He claims that she's his daughter too and he shouldn't have to "ask permission" to take her somewhere. It's not permission I was looking to give, but he could have said "hey..we're going to Anna's today.." Whenever I take Jewel out of town I ALWAYS mention it to him! And I don't HAVE to!

you're right astarte.

it's known as common courtesy.

well sure glad everything is ok.

Glad she's okay.

Thank goodness she is okay!

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Originally posted by deter716:
Thank goodness she is okay!

welcome to the forum deter716

Thanks!

Wow, I'm sure glad she's okay and no you are not overracting. I would have done the same.