just a little vent really lol. i get on pretty well with my ex's new girlfriend (well theyve been together about 8 months i think and just bought a house together). well she used to be so insecure and paranoid about me and i did everything i could to allay her fears and id thought we had got past all that. how wrong was i??
her mum doesnt help and is putting stupid ideas in her head. The other day i popped into my ex's shop for the baby to see him. well his new girlfriends mum pops in and we're introduced. i say hello and she says a quick hello and starts talking to the ex about something. she didnt even acknowledge the baby but there u go.
anyway that night his girlfriend says to me "u met my mum then? - she says u didnt say a lot!" then she says "she said u look like a proper little family". i said well we're no different to usual!
i mean for starters u would think they would be glad we are both mature enough to be making an effort for the baby (although to be honest we dont need to make the effort - were still good friends) and to say i hardly said anything to her when she went straight up to talk to the ex!
now shes putting thoughts into his girlfriends head that theres no such thing as platonic friendship (even with ur daughters mum?? ) her mum then commented on me having the same hair colour as her so the next day she dyed it lol, and when she came up the other day she saw a perfume i had which i didnt realise she also had so she wont wear that any more.
jeez cant we all be mature for the sake of my baby?? i can understand some insecurity but this is getting a bit stupid.
she even thinks that when he comes over to see the baby that he is making excuses to see me (half the time she is with him anyway and she knows she is welcome here anytime). what else can i do!!
i know this is peanuts compared to probs a lot of u have with ur ex's but its not my ex i have a problem with its his insecure partner lol

You are way stronger then I am. I dout, even though I know its over, I could become my ex's love interests bud. I know what she is worried about though, a lot of people who are married get back together because they have a histroy together.

the thing is ya know i ended the marriage cause i wasnt in love with my ex anymore (wish to god i had been cause i tried for a long time). however im still good friends with my ex and i thought it is easier if i try and be friendly with her too. im glad he has gone on and found happiness and i thought itll be best all around, easier for the baby, for my ex and me really. i can understand to a certain extent if she is insecure but then i have done everything i can to assure her it is over 100% with me and my ex and i only see him as a good friend. i mean if we wanted to be together we would be - we have the best reason in the world, our little girl. when ther have amber overnight its kinda hard sometimes when i see amber drive off with my ex cause shes also driving off with another woman but i try and put that aside and think id rather at least be friendly with her and then itll make it easier when i see amber with her but the way she is so paranoid about me is seriously starting to get on my nerves!!

oh yea another thing was the other night ex thought they were babysitting cause i was working but it was supposed to be the next night. when i told them she was giving him hell (saying "i could slap u" and "well we may as well stay for 5 minutes now". apparently she screamed at him about that cause he had done it on purpose to come and see me. even if he had done it on purpose (which he didnt) it would have been to see the baby who he misses like mad when hes working long hours!) jeez!!

You are very wise lovebeingamum, as we know from being here rarly is it this peacful. I just hope that the green eyed monster doesn't destroy his relationship with his new one. I wouldn't let it get to you, we know human nature, rarly does a mate want to share, even if it is their own mind.

thanks babe, yea wise words - thats my fear that its gonna destroy their relationship which i dont want for my ex's sake. i know hes already had words with her mum telling her to stop filling her daughters head with **** and not to make him choose. thing is my ex is like me - baby comes 1st and if u made either of us choose a partner over that baby there would be no competition!!

I am truly sorry for you then. Me I would take a few steps back, (sigh), I hate it when people can't be grown up.

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Originally posted by Paulandhisgirls:
[qb] I am truly sorry for you then. Me I would take a few steps back, (sigh), I hate it when people can't be grown up. [/qb]

i have done ! and yea thanks - me too lol! thanks