Well, many of you know my story.

Ex was abusive. I left. He dissappeared (two of the 4 times he dissappeared it was to jail). I terminated his rights and he reappeared. Then he got married and I was told she was pregnant.

Now I find out he is in jail again (he sold a morphine patch to an undercover) and she is no longer pregnant.

I just wonder, what does it take to make a man/woman care about his/her kids???

Pita, if I knew the answer to that...

I would be going on talk shows and making big bucks.

Unfortunately, we cannot make others care and we are not responsible for them. The only thing we can do is make sure that we do what is right for our kids. At least they can have one parent who cares and they will always know that we were there for them and always will be. I know it is frustrating, but there just isn't anything else we can do. This is similar to what I said in Pookers Post "What are we responsible for".

I know this doesn't answer your question, but maybe it can reassure you that he isn't your responsibilty.

Aw pita, so sorry.
For the whole picture. Do your little ones know? I mean they have started to see him and now he's back in jail. That is so crummy. :huggies: to you and the girls.

I just get so angry that he feels he can just keep coming in and out of the girls life whenever he feels like it. Regardless of how it affects them or how they feel.

Am I expected to continue to allow him to pop in and out and disrupt their lives over and over?

I don't know the right answer.

I know what I want to say.

I know what I would want to do if it were me.

I just keep trying to allow involvement and connection between my son and his father but it is so difficult when I know the type of life his is living and worry about the exposer of that on my wonderful child in the long run.

I really wish I knew the right answer.

I have talked to so many people lately that have told me that they were so thankful that their real father was never around. My sister in law told me that she even thanked her father for not messing up her life when she was old enough to tell him without him thinking she was trying to make him feel bad.

Simone asked me three weeks ago when he was going to stop coming. Not that she wanted him to stop, she just expected it. I guess we now know. I have noto told them and will not. simone is so embarassed that he was ever there before (2x). I would hate for her to know he is there again.