My EX and I are always having problems. This past Friday night we got into another horrible fight. This one was a record breaker. The cop's even showed up. We talked on Saturday afternoon and apologized to each other but made a joint decision that we weren't going to hang around each other anymore. This way we don't have to worry about the things we do having an affect on each other. Time after time he's told me that I'm the only thing he has here (we're dual military and both very far from our families). I feel very similar about him but I made it a point that I'll never have to depend on him.

Well, Saturday night my EX's roommate hung himself from the stairwell in our building. He was a good friend of both of us. We both had been friends with this guy going on two years. I'm highly upset about this but not nearly as much as my EX. After all they were roommates and worked together. I feel horrible because I'm not there for my EX. I'm the only thing he has, I've always been the shoulder he's cried on. Yet we have a hard time getting along lately. Should I let him know I care about him and be there for him or should I just walk away? My mother thinks I should stay clear of the situation during my pregnancy. I know its not healthy to be depressed during pregnancy but I'm going to be upset about this regardless. After all my friend did just take his own life and due to one weak moment he'll be in purgatory forever as a consequence. I've always been the strong one and I feel that I need to overlook our differences and help him threw this. What does everybody else think?

I think it is important to make clear boundaries with ex's so you can move on both of you need it it is time to let new bestfriends and new shoulders develope but now might be a hard time I would let him know you care and that you are there for now but as soon as it is better get some seperation and let go