I need someone to slap me everytime that I go and check my exs myspace. I have no self control when it comes to doing things that emotionally hurt me. Why, why do I keep doing it. It makes me upset every time but yet....next day comes and there I go again..........SLAP ME PLEASE AND TELL ME TO STOP!!!

I wish I could, but I find myself doing the same things...I'm willing to bet that you read his bulletins for hints/clues, read his comments, even check to see if he has any new pictures or even new friends. You probably even have him on a friend alert so that it tells you whenever he changes his profile....or maybe not, just saying....

What I found helped with this was removing them as a friend, or at least as a top friend, and removing all message notifications. You know the out of site, out of mind type thing...

Slap you for what.....I see nothing wrong here...
geez you should go there first thing in the morning...then right before lunch...then right after lunch
Then right before you go home for the day.....once in the evening and then right before bed...
Come on get with the program.....
Once a day??....you're insulting to psycho ex-girlfriends everywhere...
How do you expect to teach your daughter how to be a good psycho if you're not one...

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Originally posted by Trey's Daddy:
I wish I could, but I find myself doing the same things...I'm willing to bet that you read his bulletins for hints/clues, read his comments, even check to see if he has any new pictures or even new friends. You probably even have him on a friend alert so that it tells you whenever he changes his profile....or maybe not, just saying....

What I found helped with this was removing them as a friend, or at least as a top friend, and removing all message notifications. You know the out of site, out of mind type thing...

Good idea! I've thought about it but can't bring myself to delete him cause I'm so nosey but I think you're right, I should get one of my friends to do it since I can't seem to bring myself to lol. And hopefully his profile will be private so I can't see it at all! That would be even better!

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Originally posted by HannahsBoy:
Slap you for what.....I see nothing wrong here...
geez you should go there first thing in the morning...then right before lunch...then right after lunch
Then right before you go home for the day.....once in the evening and then right before bed...
Come on get with the program.....
Once a day??....you're insulting to psycho ex-girlfriends everywhere...
How do you expect to teach your daughter how to be a good psycho if you're not one...

LMAO I needed that, thanks for the laugh . *theme from the movie psycho running in my head*

This is exactly why I denied my ex when he requested to be my friend. He was already getting upset b/c he was reading one sided conversations on my best friends page between she and I and assuming that he knew what we were talking about. I say delete him or at the very least move him to the bottom somewhere. Good luck and don't stress yourself too much!

I would like someone to slap me as well please.

Guess I need one too. That I'm aware of, my ex doesn't have one, but the new woman does, with pictures of their baby. i sometimes feel i am addicted to being hurt, like that reloads my victim card or something. i manage to stay off i think about two weeks, and then i went back again. it is just surreal seeing the person who I was with for half my life with his arms wrapped around these other people. ah well.

Jen25...i think personally if you want to keep having days where your emotional stability are determined by your ex than go on and keep it up. The way I see it you are still allowing his actions to effect you even if he doesnt know hes doing it. He may very well be having the time of his life while your going crazy with the "psycho behavior" posted earlier. I have had a similar situation. Since I pay alot of the bills I had access to my ex's cell phone records...which is actually where i first found a curious number that was being called way too much (turned out to be a guy she worked with but thats another story). Anyway everyday I would find myself looking at it to she who she was calling. If we just hung out I would look to see if she called him right after or who she would call first thing, btw I could do this on the internet in almost real time...small delay. It drove me crazy. I would feel good when she didnt call this guys number but when she did I would get upset and she didnt even know this. Well as I tried to weeen myself off it for a while I found myself compelled to look again and I lost the password. I was freakin for a second than I just accepted it as someone trying to tell me to let it go and you know what ...there was so much freedom when I could not look at it anymore. I felt so much more happiness and contentness on a regular basis it was refreshing. I still sometimes find myself wanting to see what she is up to but have to remind myself that I really dont want to know because I get so stressed and emotionally obsessed in that moment I now know how great it can be when you let go of that behavior. My advice is to do whatever you can to stop taking an interest it who hes talking to or what hes up to and focus the energy on your life. Your better than that and shouldnt be giving your precious energy to someone who does not appreciate you.

Here's a big *SLAP* for Jenn and Moosey.

...although I don't really know why I'm slapping you, Moosey.


I do the same thing, Jenn. I guess I need a slap too.

the why is not important, just keep slapping at a medium pace

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Originally posted by Moosey:
the why is not important, just keep slapping at a medium pace

Oh, wow...
I just keep liking you more and more everyday, Moosey.

Being the glutton for punishment I am, I went back and now I find pictures of my own children with the new woman and child on the beach at a festival I introduced my ex to and traveled to every year.

Laurie I bet you know, I've been going to Belmar beach for the past I dunno, 10/11 years. My daughter's name is Brielle too, I bet you know why

anyway, I missed this year's cos I had a performance to attend, but still...I'm doubly vexed that tradition has been bastardized, second only to the news that they are now attending our old church where my children were dedicated.

Somebody stop me!

Lola - nooo, not the seafood festival? it is the single best weekend of the whole year ever!! i put it on the front page of my website. i was heartbroken to miss it this year. i never never never miss it. but my mom was in the hospital and i thought i'd choke on the lobster claw if i even dreamed of being that selfish - lol.

ok, so point pleasant has one in september. all the same vendors, but it is on the street (ok, it is like 8 blocks long) and they have kegs of beer and root beer instead of a wine tent. but it is almost as good... can you sneak away in september for a weekend? we can try to gather up some online folks for some silly fun. i'll try to find the date.

what a sick cruel bastardd he is.... i hate him more than ever now! grrrrr

also, in brielle thai spring rolls at the union landing - almost as good as... well, better actually cuz them i've had recently!

Lola stay away!! I've been slapping myself and doing much better!! You can too!