hello I am new to this site, I have been questioning myself lately about the breakup with my ex.. it was not a healthy relationship, we fought for the last 8 months of it constantly, and he did something really stupid the night it ended, now 3 months later, I find myself lonely and begin to wonder was it all that bad, I know I can't go back and he is still trying, actually bothering me about it when he knows he is not allowed to contact me whatsoever by order of a judge,, alot of people tell me to report him, but he is still my little girls father and I don't want her dad in jail... I guess I am looking for answers,,,, anyone been though something like this....

Thanks...

Michelle

First welcome to the site.To many of us are in the same boat as you.I know you will find a great bunch of people here with all sorts of great advice.Jump in some post and add your input. :welcome:

Hi Michelle

My life was a constant nightmare not that long ago. My ex is an abusive drug and alcohol addict. I also finally left and ended up lonely and feeling sad, but you can get through it.

Going back could be a particularly bad idea, if he is in trouble with the law you definately do not want to expose yourself to any issues there and risk the care of your child. Also if a judge ordered a restraining order to keep him away from you I'm sure there was a reason.

Hope this helps,

Rob

thank you Rob.....I know I can never go back, its just those nights sometimes, but i'm getting used to them and besides I have my daughter what else could I possibly need

Michelle

Welcome, I know I went thru that stage of wondering was it all that bad, could I have done something different, how did it get so bad, was it me, so on and so on. I know I am better off without him and each day it does get easier. Stay strong!

welcome, I would rather be lonely then have to fight constantly. Plus fighting is not good for your child, they reallt don't need to see that.

:welcome:
You have found a great place here.

The being lonely is normal, with time you adjust to the new situation, and hopefully the lack of battles and constant issues brings with it a new comfort and peace.

From my point of view, you wouldn't be putting him in jail, his actions would be.

Believe it or not those nights do get shorter, and the loneliness does subside. It takes time. LOL I took up new activities to keep myself so busy I wouldn't have time to think about it. Worked for me, but not necessarily the right answer for everyone.

Hope this finds you a little happier and well,

Rob

thanks everyone,,, those nights are getting spaced further and further apart,, I do know one thing,,,, the lack of fighting is very soothing for my nerves lol...

One more hurdle,,, court,,, then its over,,, I hope *crosses fingers*

thanks again,

Michelle

thankfully my breakup was very amicable so i cant talk from experience BUT u have totally done the right thing chickie, if not 4 u then 4 ur little girl. dont ever doubt it. yeh it can be lonely but as u have said it does get easier as time goes on (and when ur feeling low just look at ur little girl - works for me every time!) i still get lonely but i have my daughter and thats more important than anything