Well I will try to make this short. I was with my ex for 8 years. During that time..he was Very abusive to me..verbally, mentally, and physically. I finally had Jacinda 6 years into the relationship. And started to wisen up...thinking how my daughter doesn't need this..and how she would cry when she heard or seen him hurt me. I said this isn't for my girl...tried for a couple years to break away...
Now..he is just recently getting out of jail..Being away from him..and working with the clientell I do..I have realized he has several mental illnesses...such as..Antisocial disorder, Bipolar, Schizoaffective.
He is also a compulsive liar. He doesnt take care of our daughter when he is around her.
Last time..he drank beer the whole time he was with her..from 1 pm to we left at 9pm.
He let her run into the road one time..cause he wasn't paying attention to her..
things like that..
He only calls to see Jacinda when he wants to get back with me...
He promises his daughter he is gonna come see her..and never shows or never calls..
It breaks her heart. I just don't know.
He is just getting out of jail..cause he stole a check from me..money out of his own daughters mouth..forged it and cashed it. I pressed charges, and he got put on probation..and violated that and went to jail...so now he is getting out.
I now..have been recently thinking about forcing him to get Mental help..if he wants to see his daughter..otherwise, he isn't gonna.
I can not let him mess up my daughter..
I can not trust him alone with her, the way he is..
He is very irresponsible..
He hasn't ever paid me child support.
I can't take him to court, cause i would screw myself for daycare help..
I can't afford to pay 115 dollars a week...just to get 25 dollars a week from him..that I can't even count on.
I just don't know what to do. I am so tired of arguing with him..and being blamed for everything that happends to him..doesn't matter if it had to do with me or not..Grrr..
What should I do..? I hope this makes sense..I guess I dont' know...if maybe from what I have said..if it is better to keep her away..and out of his life, or push him to get help first..or what..
I still can't trust him alone..or with his mother....or anything..Grrr...Help!

your child comes first. think of her and then decide what is in her best interest. personally, i'd give him one chance to get mental help for himself, if he doesn't, i'd leave him. children don't need to be treated that way. good luck.
tasha

Umm, You say you work in the mental health field? In which way.

I think that if you are a wife you can sign him in to a mental institution. You can call a local one and see how to go about getting him screened.

Just a thought.

Peace
Robin

What you need is a safety net giiirrrrl. You need to build, build, build you definately have some backbone and I bet what you lack in looks you own in charisma! ( I do anyway) anyway..get involved with your local church or anything of interest to you and your baby cuz it will pay off and when you network yourself with "The right kind of people" you become what you respect because though you may need help maybe some daycare svcs, rent, utilities even groceries. I'm sure you have a talent or gift that could take a load off someone else. Good Luck!

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