The ex is going on vacation next week. I have no real idea where to, but I've come to not care, it just doesn't matter. It's the fact that she's going somewhere without me. When I met her she had never been out of the state, then she took 1 trip to Disney with her daughter and from then on we went on trips together, not many, but it was always together.

I just need to get through the next week and half, heck today would be good, then I'll be fine.

Sorry, just needed to vent.

I empathize with you, vacations are tough. When I take my boys on vacation, it's actually one of the few times I find myself missing my ex and a true 'family' vacation. In the 2 years since we split, my ex has taken approximately 10 trips for herself (mostly of the long weekend variety), and even though she got our timeshare in the divorce she hasn't taken vacation with the boys at all (can't waste that precious PTO I guess). Maybe that's a good thing, she'd probably take her new BF along. Even though he practically lives at the house anyway, having him go on a vacation with my kids would probably be rough on me.

But yes, you will be fine and get through the time. Maybe find something to treat yourself with & do whatever you can to keep your mind off the subject.

It always kinda gives me the willies when a repeat guest of mine gets divorced then comes back to the inn with another person. 90+% of the time it is a man bringing a new girlfriend or new wife. They'll even joke that they took the ex here... As much as I appreciate the business, um. ew.

Women (in general) tend to never come back again and will even go so far as to ask to be removed from the mailing list as it is too painful for them to remember being here with an ex.

I was shocked beyond belief when my ex took his girlfriend on basically what was our honeymoon itinerary. When I think of the millions of places I could go, I would never go back where I'd been with another romantic liason... ew.

Ok, so slightly off topic, but still it was vacations. Sorry! I hope your week is sunny and wonderful and she gets rain!!!

Stay strong NeedforJoy!

I just got back from a vacation to Houston with my son. We went to Seaworld in San Antonio, and I got all teary-eyed on a couple of shows...just because I kept thinking that we should have been there all together as a family.

As much as I can't stand my ex, and hate her guts for turning into someone I genuinely dispise...I still missed the idea of us having a happy life together.

You're not the only one going through pain. It bites. :-)

LD - I hear you. I just think as soon as an ex is mentioned, the other person has gotta be, oh so I'm not anyone special, and they have to be thinking "are they thinking about their ex while we're here?" You're right, ew!!

Fooser - That's how I've been feeling ever since I found out she was taking a vacation, or when I step outside to fire up the grill and stand on the big empty deck and I get one of those flashbacks about everyone being on the deck, laughing and having a good time. Then I snap back to reality and flip my steak.