Everyday I enjoy the company of my wonderful daughter who has done nothing but lihgten my life from the moment she was born.. I just have a problem beliving,accepting, and understanding that a parent either a man or female can chose not to see there child. My childs father and I broke up after 2 years from He*$, in Feburay. Since then he has seem my daughter maybe ten times. Not by my choses but his chose. He lives (lived he recently moved in with a new girlfriend and her daughter that he has know a month) five min. away. I would call all the time begging him to see her and if I wanted child support ( a mare fity bucks) I had to beg and plead. Well in June I got feed up he saw her twice and paid nothing, I decided that it was better for my child to not see him at all rather than spratic visits once or twice a month for a couple hours at a time with out paying a dime. He sees his new girlfriends 4 year old (that calls him "that boy") more than my child. He wanted to see her for labor day and at first I said no then I told him okay but the new girlfriend that I have not met yet can not be there ( I feel as a responsable mother that I should know the type of people around my innocent child) and he chose his girlfriend. How can people be like this??? She is a wondeful child and he is throwing her away...... null

HI, I competely understand.I am in the same situation, My son is everything to me. I was with the "sperm donor" as I like to call him, because that's all he has done. we were together fo 5 yrs when I got pregnant and then he left after only 5 weeks after my son was born. I never received any child support, christmas gifts or any other holiday gifts. Infact he cameto see my son twice after he left. He was a huge a**hole. I figured I would rather have my son not ruined my his jerkish ways, with no child support than to have to deal with him.My son is two andthe "sperm donor" saw him last when he was 9 months, not even on his 1st birthday. since I have moved across the country just to start a new life.If I ever see him again it will be too soon! I just worry how I will explain this to my son, with out hurting his feelings? I know I don't have any answers but I sure can empathise with you.
Joyousd

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Originally posted by Destinys mom:
[qb]Everyday I enjoy the company of my wonderful daughter who has done nothing but lihgten my life from the moment she was born.. I just have a problem beliving,accepting, and understanding that a parent either a man or female can chose not to see there child. My childs father and I broke up after 2 years from He*$, in Feburay. Since then he has seem my daughter maybe ten times. Not by my choses but his chose. He lives (lived he recently moved in with a new girlfriend and her daughter that he has know a month) five min. away. I would call all the time begging him to see her and if I wanted child support ( a mare fity bucks) I had to beg and plead. Well in June I got feed up he saw her twice and paid nothing, I decided that it was better for my child to not see him at all rather than spratic visits once or twice a month for a couple hours at a time with out paying a dime. He sees his new girlfriends 4 year old (that calls him "that boy") more than my child. He wanted to see her for labor day and at first I said no then I told him okay but the new girlfriend that I have not met yet can not be there ( I feel as a responsable mother that I should know the type of people around my innocent child) and he chose his girlfriend. How can people be like this??? She is a wondeful child and he is throwing her away...... null[/qb]

i know that feeling. my son's father walked out on him when i was two months along. then came back into his life when my son was nine months old. he came around a few times. my son is now six and his dad has not seen him in going on five years. i look at my son and see the great times and memories he has given and will give me and wonder how him dad can not see him at all. i wonder does he wonder if my son is ok. is he being taken care of? what does he look like?

i found out a few months ago that he had another child with another girl and sticks around and takes care of that one. what an Ass##le!! it's not fair that my son grows up with out a dad and this other child gets his dad. i don't resent the child but the situtation sucks.

i too made a choice five years ago that my son's father will not come around if he can't afford the mere $75 dollars a month. i told him things and know what he throw in my face? well you get welfare that should support him for life.

i no longer get welfare and we do ok. i try to make ends meet as well as give him a birth day party and all the other holidays.

anyways my point is you made a right choice by not letting him see your child. i felt is my son can't have a steady daddy then he doesn't need on all. know what i mean?

good luck to you
smvt

Thaks for the support it is a daily stuggle keeping her happy and keeping him from pissing me off! He has a new girlfriend now and takes care of her kid and does not see mine!!!! He thinks that he can once or twice a month and I am the bad guy becasue I say no!! That is to confusing for her. Then I changed my mind I said fine you can see her but you have to call me and ask, he said I am not calling and begging to see my daughter, so I guess I will not see her, WHAT A PRICK!!!

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Originally posted by smvt:
[qb]i know that feeling. my son's father walked out on him when i was two months along. then came back into his life when my son was nine months old. he came around a few times. my son is now six and his dad has not seen him in going on five years. i look at my son and see the great times and memories he has given and will give me and wonder how him dad can not see him at all. i wonder does he wonder if my son is ok. is he being taken care of? what does he look like?

i found out a few months ago that he had another child with another girl and sticks around and takes care of that one. what an Ass##le!! it's not fair that my son grows up with out a dad and this other child gets his dad. i don't resent the child but the situtation sucks.

i too made a choice five years ago that my son's father will not come around if he can't afford the mere $75 dollars a month. i told him things and know what he throw in my face? well you get welfare that should support him for life.

i no longer get welfare and we do ok. i try to make ends meet as well as give him a birth day party and all the other holidays.

anyways my point is you made a right choice by not letting him see your child. i felt is my son can't have a steady daddy then he doesn't need on all. know what i mean?

good luck to you
smvt[/qb]

null been there done that my two small kids havent seen their mother in 3 years and my son is only 4 he doesnt know her and my 7 yr old daughter barely remembers her i dont recieve any child support or welfare and it is tough to make it sometimes meanwhile shes living 60 miles away and been married twice and now is going to have another baby!!!! canu believe it she cant even love the first 2 and i forgot to mention that she has a child from another guy b4 me and he has full custody of him

Wow what a creep for a lady!!! I am glad thought that you were able to step up to the palte that is awesome!

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Originally posted by Destinys mom:
[qb]Everyday I enjoy the company of my wonderful daughter who has done nothing but lihgten my life from the moment she was born.. I just have a problem beliving,accepting, and understanding that a parent either a man or female can chose not to see there child. My childs father and I broke up after 2 years from He*$, in Feburay. Since then he has seem my daughter maybe ten times. Not by my choses but his chose. He lives (lived he recently moved in with a new girlfriend and her daughter that he has know a month) five min. away. I would call all the time begging him to see her and if I wanted child support ( a mare fity bucks) I had to beg and plead. Well in June I got feed up he saw her twice and paid nothing, I decided that it was better for my child to not see him at all rather than spratic visits once or twice a month for a couple hours at a time with out paying a dime. He sees his new girlfriends 4 year old (that calls him "that boy") more than my child. He wanted to see her for labor day and at first I said no then I told him okay but the new girlfriend that I have not met yet can not be there ( I feel as a responsable mother that I should know the type of people around my innocent child) and he chose his girlfriend. How can people be like this??? She is a wondeful child and he is throwing her away...... null[/qb]

Hi,
I completely understand your situation. I have been battling my ex-husband for 15 years for the unpaid child support he owes our children. I, like you got fed up about 8 years ago, and decided that my kids were better off without their so-called dad. I changed cities, and got a great job. I met the man that is now my husband and we have been together for seven years.

I went on with my life and my kids are all the better for it. I know its tough when you look at your child and you see all the wonderful things she has brought to your life. I know you don't understand why your ex can't see them too. You need to know that you are a good mom who loves her child and that no matter what happens with your ex, your child will know who was there for her and who was not.

My kids, now 13 and 15, know that their father is a deadbeat. He has tried to contact them and even tried to sue me for visitation rights (only after child support tracked him down for the money he owes). My kids at first were curious about their dad, but as time went on they saw him for the liar he is. Their stepdad was hurt and jealous at first, but he soon realized that the kids needed to learn first hand what kind of man their natural father is.

Don't worry, you keep raising your child. Everything will work out for the best. If that man doesn't want to be about her life, he is the loser, not you!

Been there, done that!