hi everyone again, its been awhile, i hope you are all well.

it has been 5 months since my ex "got over me". he is stationed in AZ, i am in ID. i havent been able to get over him. it has been so hard. he goes out drinking plays poker every night. now i am leaving for iraq in jan. i dont want to leave adam with him. partly because he i dont know if he can handle him for 4 months, and partly because i know it will hurt him. i hate for hurting me again, and i hate myself for giving him another chance to hurt me. i dont really have any friends that are my age, or have any kids. the one girl i know has a 9 yr old, but she goes to the bar on weekends and hooks up with guys, thats not my scene.

my ex says he has no obligation to me anymore, he will go a week without calling about adam. i am so hurt, i will call him, and it just hurts and i can handle it. help

How is he feeling about having Adam for 4 months? Does he have childcare lined up and such? Oh gosh what a tough tough situation to be in, hard enough to go to Iraq as it is, but add a child and an ex... Maybe the time he does spend with him will make him realize that he's hurting his son when he isnt with him or even call consistently. Although a difficult situation it may bring about a lot more understanding of the job you do on a daily basis.

How old is Adam?

I'm in the AF and currently deployed with my 6 year old at home with her father. Believe me it's hard. Especially when you and the father don't get along. I know that he takes care of her, but when it comes to treating me with respect, well there is a lot to be deserved in that department. We don't do it in front of her though. I don't know what I would do if I had to leave her with someone I didn't trust. Can you leave Adam with a Parent or maybe even the X's parents if you trust them? It's not about what is going to make it easier on you, just what is best for the child. It isn't easy on me for my daughter to be with her father, but I know that is the best place for her.