All forums, topics and discussions are geared to single parents and the issues faced with single parenting.
Support a single parent today and one will support you back!
Single Family Voices - For Single Parents Online Single Parent Forums Open Discussions I cried today.|
Go
|
New
|
Find
|
Notify
|
Tools
|
Reply
|
|
|
"Every thought we think is creating our future" Setting New Standards  |
I'm so wore out. Wore out to the point that I actually feel used by my children. They are only 2 and 7 months...how could I even feel that way? I know it's not their fault I'm feeling like this. I just need a break. I just need someone else to be the "mommy" and let me have a flipping break. I feel alone and I feel like none of my family understands. Tomorrow will be better...I know...but today just plain sucks.
 Erin |
||
|
|
"Submarine Board Parent (surfacing occasionally)" Forum Board? No- KeyBoard!  |
Oh, Erin, I'm sorry you feel that way. I know how you feel, overworked and underappreciated. Hey, like some people in the military, or the postal service or even a....nurse....
|
||||
|
|
"Every thought we think is creating our future" Setting New Standards |
Thanks, Bin. I know A lot of people have it way worse. I'm probably just hormonal and feeling sorry for myself. . Erin |
|||
|
|
"Submarine Board Parent (surfacing occasionally)" Forum Board? No- KeyBoard! |
Yeah, people have it worse. Doesn't mean you don't feel like ****, right? Well, tomorrow's another day, you get to start out fresh. Trite but true.
|
||||
|
|
"Doing what I can" SFV JUNKIE!!!  |
Erin. . .
 I'm sorry to hear that you are having a hard day. Those kind of days ****. I hope you can get a day to yourself soon. Even an hour a day does wonders. Cheer up hon! Tomorrow is new and you can start fresh. |
|||
|
Parent on Board |
Erin, I'm sorry you're having that kind of day. I know how you feel! Is there any way you could get a break? Do you have friends or family around who could watch your kids for a couple of hours so you could go hit a coffee shop, or go the library or wherever you might find some peace? What about putting them in bed a little early one night and settling in with a favorite movie? A short mental break -- even you're still at home -- might get you over the rough spot.
 |
|||
|
|
"Every thought we think is creating our future" Setting New Standards |
Thanks guys. I broke down and called my mom. She came over to take Ayden for a few hours and I'm on my 3rd piece of dark chocolate.........who am I kidding......
...It's my 6th. Erin |
|||
|
Lively & Zealous Parent |
Ohhh Erin....I am so sorry you are having a tough time!! I know how hard it is to almost feel "angry" at your kids b/c it is an endless job being a parent! Then the guilt that you feel b/c you feel that way about these amazing kids you love w/ all your heart!! It is deffinately natural to get overwhelmed esp. w two little ones under 2!! You hang in there honey...This is the double edge sword of this SFV, we can listen & you can vent, but we all just wish we could hop on a plane & head to Nebraska to babysit while you take a break &/or just sit & eat chocolate with you!! Stay strong & know we are ALWAYS here!!!!
        4 U LC...LOL!! |
|||
|
|
Board Member |
I feel for you girl. My 2 year old is almost all I can take sometimes, I can't imagine having a 7 mth old, as well. I don't know how women like you do it. All I know is that you gals are the modern day wonderwomans- strong and capable of anything. It could be worse... you could have 5 kids! A good cry is sometimes the best therapy, crying is a very good thing. Sometimes just releasing that frustration does wonders. Something that always works for me is a good kickboxing session.
|
|||
|
|
"Every thought we think is creating our future" Setting New Standards |
Aw, I love you guys.
 Erin |
|||
|
Setting New Standards |
I hear your pain--I have been feeling this way for a couple of weeks now!!! I have been very depressed and feeling like it is someone else's turn to take care of my son--like how about his father. Then today my son only 4 1/2 told his father that he doesn't respect him anymore because he left "mommy and me" (his words) all alone and sometimes mommy cries because she is so tired. His father was taken aback, but inwardly I was smiling. Not to be mean (well, maybe) but more the fact that my very perceptive child realizes that I do alot on my own to take care of him. Then I realized that I had to get myself out of this slump so my son doesn't tell the whole world that mommy cries. Hope your feeling better soon!!
  |
|||
|
|
"Moderator Proud father/grandfather" SFV JUNKIE!!!  |
Erin, tomorrow is indeed a new fresh day. Today was apparently a day that you needed to vent out some pressure and take one step back for a moment. This single parent, career woman(man), taking on the world what feels like all by ourselves just seems so overwhelming sometimes, then we gather our strength and resolve again and realize that we really can keep going on and even smile sometimes while we do it. Hope that chocolate is helping.....who am I kidding, I know it's at least helping a little
 Feel better    |
|||
|
|
I am New to SFV |
Hi Erin - I am new to this site and you are the first person I am replying to. Hang in there. I have never felt so isolated and alone today. I feel bluer than blue. But I know I am not alone. We will get through this. And I am so grateful for this site. What a gift I found today! You are going to be OK.
Lisa |
|||
|
|
"Faith is sooo yummy!" At A loss for Words - NOT!  |
Ya know Erin, I have such respect for you and your ability to reach out. Of course folks replied with hugs! Here's another!!!
You are a terric role model for your kids.  Hope you are either feeling better or enjoying the sugar coma...  If you think you can, or you think you cant - you are right. |
|||
|
|
"Every thought we think is creating our future" Setting New Standards |
Thank you! and Welcome!  Erin |
|||
|
SFV JUNKIE!!! |
Erin,
We all have days like that...one time I had a really bad few days....before father's day....and I ended up writing this: This wasnt the plan. You were supposed to have 2 parents ...working together. One supporting the other....to make sure you had everything a growing person needs, to grow up and be a good, strong well-rounded adult. You were supposed to have 2 married parents, to each other....to give you away, or witness you getting married if you so wished. You were supposed to wake up in the middle of the night after you had a bad dream, to see 2 faces looking down, making sure you were OK. You were supposed to have 2 people picking you up, one reassuring the other ...and then you, that when you fell, things were still going to be ok. That was the plan. Instead, you have me......a single Dad. I dont know how to be Mom, but I'm learning. I don't know how to act like a cheerleader for you....but I can be a coach. I dont know how to shave your legs, but a beard has got to be close. I dont know how to get a boy to like you, cause to me they should ALL like you. I dont know how to get a girl to like you, cause I'm a man, just like you want to be, and we never really know those things. I'm not really good a kissing the boo boo, and saying just the right thing when you hurt, ...but I'll give it my best shot. When you dont clean your room, When you fight with your sister or brother, When you cant seem to get your schoolwork right, When you cant understand why the kids at school pick on you, ....and you turn to me, I pray to God I have the answers, or at least the right hug. I wonder if I making the right decisions for you. I wonder if the choices that I make to help guide you...will hurt your or help you in the long run. I wonder if there's anymore I can do to ensure you have everything you need. I wonder if I havent overlooked something today, yesterday....and what if I forget something important to you tomorrow. I wonder a lot..... ...........that wasnt the plan. For Father's Day ....just this once....I wanna know I'm doing ok. That everything I do as a single Dad is really helping you. That when you grow up .....and you're holding my Grandbaby.....that I made all the right choices to help ensure that you'd be a Great parent....... .........THAT was originally the plan. I'm sorry..........I didnt plan this, this way. Forgive me.....if I make mistakes............I'm a Single Dad. So, hang in there, Erin...there will be more good days than bad.  I'm a man of many mysteries and sides....SO many I'm practically round!! |
|||
|
|
"Every thought we think is creating our future" Setting New Standards |
Oh my goodness, Paul... If you could just see the tears streaming down my face right now... I have goosebumps from reading that. You are an awesome writer and you just totally made me feel SO much better. Thank you! Erin |
|||
|
|
"Faith is sooo yummy!" At A loss for Words - NOT! |
New day! Hope this one is full of so much good stuff that you laugh til you snort!
If you think you can, or you think you cant - you are right. |
|||
|
|
"Submarine Board Parent (surfacing occasionally)" Forum Board? No- KeyBoard! |
Yeah, just as well. Don't think you'd fit into the uniform. Nor do we all need that mental picture.... 
|
||||
|
|
Parent on Board |
Erin...
I'm crying reading your posts and replies... How well do we all know that feeling - being overwhelmed, knowing that things are not "as they should be" but not knowing how to make them as they should be... Lost. I have cried so many tears knowing that in my part I have destroyed my children's world by deciding not to be married to their dad. I have wondered so many times if I would be able to make up in some way for them not having a 2-parent family. I love them so much... I just wish I could do more and somehow not feel so guilty and overwhelmed... breathe - its my mantra - just breathe deeply and know this too shall pass. I want it all. I want it all in a red dress with high heels and diamonds And dabs of expensive perfume behind my ears I want it all Lab coat and stethoscope for jewelry and a red clown nose to cheer on a little smile Healing in my hands and heart And an evening benefit to attend at 8 (what shall I wear?) I want it all Kid hand prints on the doors and underneath the light switch Time to play and run in the field behind our house That has no stickers With our dog, Ranger I want it all Rosie my maid to pick up the laundry, but I want to do the cooking – keep it real I want it all A writing cubby where I spit out my literary works That touch peoples lives and change Their perspectives One wall orange. Just because. I want it all A window with a view of mountains and desert and ocean And always a cool breeze blowing through And soft music of wind in trees I want it all Two rocking chairs on a long front porch where symphonies of nighttime sound And no mosquitos bite An grandchildren clamber to hear the good-night story And calls to come in for dinner ring in the neighborhood I want it all Is that so wrong? Can I have it all? Probably not, but…does wanting make it morose? Its ok to allow yourself to dream.... dreaming gives us life. Mark Twain once said "Don't part with your illusions. When they are gone, you may still exist, but you have ceased to live." |
|||
|
|
"SFV Hopeless Romantic..and I stress "HOPELESS"" Setting New Standards  |
Erin I hope your feeling better today.
We all have these moments from time to time. A little secret even happily married parents feel overwhelmed sometimes. I remember many days of tears even when I was married (ok maybe not as often but still) All good parents want nothig more than to do right by our children.. but that doesnt mean we can't get tired or discouraged. Just know it will be ok. http://myspace.com/sugarand3  Courage doesnt always roar, sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying "I will try again tomorrow." |
|||
|
|