Hi,

I have a 16 y/o son who is oppositional defiant. I guess most teens must be. But this one is horrible. I've had to call the police on him many times, mostly to get him to school. But on several occasions for altercations with either his older brother or his ex-stepdad. Just Saturday night I had to call the police on him for attacking me verbally and slinging stuff at me. The police just took him to a friends house to get him out of here for the night.
I don't know what to do with him. I'm a disabled Mom, also on oxygen among other things. Any suggestions from anyone would be greatly appreciated.

thank you

Tommie, I am expecting my first son soon. However, I am 29 and remmember 16 fairly well. I was quite a pain at about 12. Never did I raise a hand to my family but did cuss a bit. My mother quit her job and stayed home. She moved me from the school, city and state for a new start. I have never been violent but I remmember feeling out of control and her overwhelming love fixed me. I would reccommend going to family counseling. He is obviously acting out for some reason, possibly a chemical inbalance. Do not give up, there is hope for him yet! Good luck

Sorry, I only have pre-teens so I'm not much help.. but I agree.. there has to be a reason why he is acting this way, so opening up the communication and working out what is the problem and how it can be dealt with sounds like a good idea.

Tommie,
Your son sounds like my nephews. The 13 yr old has to go to court for missing so much school. The oldest one is even worse. My sister is at her wit's end a lot of the time. All the best to you! Hope you find the support you are looking for...