Ok...I belong to a March Mommies Forum for women who are due to deliver their babies in March. I have been having some concerns but no one is really responding...I am going to cut and paste 3 posts of mine to see if one of you moms here can give me some advice. I am worried and would like my mind eased.
I would appreciate any advice especially if any of you have experienced any of this. Maybe I am truely being a big baby...but I really feel that something may be wrong with me.........

here are my posts with the dates that I posted them.....

January 28, 2008

What do contractions feel like? Sometimes I get these pains like real bad gas pains, I think they may be contractions...but I am not sure. I am so new to all of this....with My son who is almost 8 I really blocked out everything. This is like my first time going through this.
I am starting to get real scared. How will I know????? What if my water breaks but it is just a trickle...will I know? I have leaked before and just figured it was my bladder. What If my water breaks and I don't even know it? Could that cause harm to my baby?
I hope everything goes according to plan, but does that ever really happen?

January 30, 2008


I do think that I am having just braxton hicks contractions. I am in more discomfort than anything....I feel like I just got off of a running horse that I have been straddled on for 4 hours!!!! I have a tingling numbing feeling on my labia....and just so much pressure in my whole pubic area. Even my pubic and pelvic bones hurt. I go to the doctors tomorrow. I guess they will do a checkup and see if I am dialated or effaced. I don't know though because they seem to be sooo uninterested when ever I go there. They are very short and do not ask me any questions and barely answer my questions. I get more advice here then at my own doctors.

Feb, 1, 2008

I am still having a lot of pressure down in my pubic area and where my pubic hair is I get an intense burning rush feeling when I stand up from either sitting or laying....or if I squat or put on socks...especially if I lift my left foot up. It is pretty intense and scares me a bit.
I went to the doctor yesterday and he basically rushed through the appt. He was in and out in 5 minutes literally. And that included listening to babies heartbeat....checking me for dialation...measuring my belly.
Well, he says I am not dialated at all. He never told me how big my belly is measuring. He did say the heart rate was strong and good. When I asked about this pain and pressure he basically looked at me like I was stupid and said that this is what it feels like to be pregnant...that this is my second baby and he is low and that is the cause. Then he walked out.
I felt so uncomfortable. I feel like I am acting like a big baby but that is how I felt after I had my son and I had a bad feeling and the nurse told me I was acting like a big baby and that women deliver babies everyday and to stop complaining. Well I tried to talk myself into believing nothing was wrong....I even tried to take a walk talking to myself telling myself that the pain I was feeling was normal then the next thing I knew I was being carried out of the hallway by a surgen who said I had a hemotoma the size of a large cantalope and that I needed to go immediately to surgery.
I could have died...actually almost did. I was put in a medically induced coma for 21 days and had blood transfusions for 5 days straight, I was hemmoraging so bad that my blood lost its ability to clot and they had to surgically implant a blood clot into my blood. I almost got a hysterectomy....then they finally found where the blood was coming from....my son ripped my recto-vaginal wall open. (the wall that seperates your vagina from your but.)
I am not a big baby...I tolerate pain very well....I try hard not to complain. I feel that this may not be normal. When I get up from sitting down I cannot stand straight up...the burning is right above my crotch where my pubic hair is....it hurts. Bending hurts....lifting my legs...like to go up steps, hurts. Can this be normal????
Lord....please don't let it get worse!!!
I really need some advice...cause my doctor certainly doesn't care.



Thank you for any advice or encouraging words you can offer.

PS...the baby is incredibly active...he is very big and rubs on my ribs and pelvic bones and it feels almost gross!!!!! EWWWWW!!!!!!
I sometimes wonder if he is uncomfortable along with me and that is why he moves soooo much. They say his movement should have slowed down by now because of lack of room.

Jennie.

Alot of your symptoms sound like what I was experiencing while I was pregnate with Ella
With my last Baby I had Placenta previa that means the placenta is attached to the lower half of the uteruscovering part or touching the mouth of your uterus. Usually the placenta will move up on its own but sometimes it doesnt and can cause problems with delevery and or bleeding. But like I said usually it corrects itself. It can be diagnosed easily with an ultra sound. They put me on bed rest ( i was only supposed to get up to go to the bathroom (yea right and what were my two other kids supposed to do?) Also iron and vitamin c. They say most women with placenta previa will have to have a c-section ..but I didn't.

Of course I am not a doctor I can only share my experience. If your doctor will not listen to you I would consider going to the emergency room itf your really uncomfortable. They will have to do a more extensive work up on you. Don't feel like your being a baby its not only you that you have to look out for its your child. I'd rather be too careful than find out later I should have listened to my instincts.

I can answer the question about water breaking. Mine did not fully break but was a trickle. The trickle came at intrevals (contractions). I did not feel the contractions right away.

You should really call the nurse and explain what is happening. The nurse usually knows and will take time listen.

Always listen to your body and seek a second opinion. Pain and pressure after complications from the first is never something to ignore.

sigh, sorry, wrong parts and prospective

Amy.......I am not sure if you and I are on the same page here. I guess what I wrote was a little confusing.

Ok...by Recto-vaginal tear I did NOT mean on the outside of the body...I mean the inside. He tore open the wall inside my body that is between the rectum and the vagina.

Now....he did tear me on all four sides coming out but not too bad. They did check me internally for scarring and said I had none to minimal. They told me that I could deliver vaginally and if God forbid the same thing reaccured....they would be ready for it and fix it before it became such a problem.
That does offer me some relief....but a part of me is a little scared.
I am getting really nervous about labor pains and delivery pain! I am SCARED and I am saying I am SCARED!!!!!!! Because of my past....they will not give me any narcotics. They already informed me of that. I am getting an epidoral.

I was on a methadone program through this hospital and also delivered my son there. They are well aware of my past!!!!! And any narcotics are a NO, NO!!!!!

I will probally get tylonol or Motrin!!!
That makes me less scared! AAARRRGGGHHH!!!

As far as my water breaking....I do not think I am leaking now....I just was curious....how would you really know if it was just a little hole dripping.....but yet that could really effect your baby. I was wondering do you definately get contractions when your water breaks even if it is a little tiny hole??????

Thanks ladies....oh, and you too Lurch!!!!!!!!

Jennie.

Everyones pregnancy and delivery is very different. So, my experience was that pressure in your pubic area is muscles trying to hold all that extra baby.
My first baby, my water broke, but no contractions. The second, contractions, but they had to break my water. The first had to be induced, the second didn't.

I know how you feel. I just had another baby after 11 yrs and I to blocked out things from the first birth. So I used to ask my doctor alot of questions. I had some of the same pains and problems you are having. In my case it was nothing it was just my body getting ready for the delivery of the baby. But I also did alot of research on the internet then I would take what I found and asked the doctor. Don't let the doctor make you feel like you are crazy it is your body and your baby. So keep asking. The night I went into labor I had felt drips of urine so I called my doctor and he told me no it's not time. Well guess what as the night went on it turned into contraction while I was eating at a restaurant so I called him again it is late at night and he said well I don't think you are in labor but if you want go to the hospital then go. Will I am glad I did I got to the hospital at about 10pm my baby came at 2am that morning.
So sometimes when doctors feel like you complain alot they write you off but it is up to us the people that pay them to stay behind them especially if you feel that something is not right. Good luck I'm sure everything is fine with your baby.

Well I went to my doctors and they said that Julian is a rather large baby and I may consider a c-section just to prevent complications. They also said it is entirely up to me.
His heart rate is fine, he is moving all of the time...I have gained 29 lbs. total.
Ohhh and guess what? My ankles are sooo swollen. They look crazy! My left shoe wouldn't go on this morning. My foot is kinda round. Time to drink lots of water and NO MORE SALT!!!!!!!

The pain I am feeling is from muscles stretching and ligaments. I am getting used to it I guess, but every thing I do is a struggle for me. I am not to thrilled about that.

Only 3 1/2 more weeks until delivery day.

Any bets on when Julian will get here?
His due date is March 3, 2008.
I say he will be here
Feb. 29th 2008.

Thanks so much you guys!!!

Jennie.