I think my parents have lost their minds. I am 29 and have not lived at home since the age of 17. We have however kept in contact on the phone. well I decided to come back to the city 4 months ago and through the transition decided to ask "good ol'mom and dad" for a temp place to stay. BIG MISTAKE They are no longer grandparents, they have taken up drinking heavily, beleive my children ages 2 and 10 should never make a single noise in their home, and offer absolutely no conversation much less advice to me. I am sleeping on the floor of the den on a twin mattress I share with my children. While my 22 year old sister with no job has a huge room right across the hall. I always knew she was the favorite, but I thought my kids would be comfortable in their home. Many I should have stayed 200 miles away.???[EMAIL]null[/EMAIL]

Hi,
Try to breath....It has got to be hard, I know. Did you really expect your sis to give up her room though? I know you had higher expectations from your parents, especially for your kids. Just try to get out of there as soon as possible. In the meantime try not to resent them to much, they only see what they have been seeing since you moved out. Congratulations, you are seen by your parents as an independent young woman who they no longer worry about. Sometimes it sucks doesn't it? Independence. I hope it all works out for you. Here is a ((HUG))

Set a goal date to get out of there. I'm not sure what your work situation is but get to the library if you can and start researching. Whether its for a jobs or an apartment or both. You probably know all this already. It seems like the situation at home will be toxic for you and your children in the long run. Right now, it is a roof over your families head. Don't worry yourself over your sister and how she has become your parents favorite, just think about getting out of there. I agree with Thinker, try not to build resentment, it will only make your situation worse. My thoughts are with you. Peace.

In general, I agree with the advice that's already been given to you, but I offer you this: Despite it being a roof over your head, does it pose a threat? You've mentioned that your parents are heavy drinkers. If it was enough for you to mention in your post, then it seems to me that it's something that has you greatly concerned. If you feel you or your children are in any type of danger, be it emotional or physical, then you need to get out. I did an online search, and came up with the "Hope network for single mothers" based in milwaukee. Their website lists that they're a grassroots volunteer orginization with resources to help in many ways. You can check them out yourself at http://www.hopenetworkinc.org/ . (I am going on the fact that your profile lists you as being in milwaukee.)

Don't give up. There are people who can help you, even if your family won't. Most importantly, don't remain in a situation that is potentially detrimental to you and/or your children because you feel you have nowhere to turn. There's always a light at the end of the tunnel. *hugs* Good luck.