A lot of parents are on the single parents network to find others who can relate to what they are experiencing. I am going through hell right now!

I am 20 years old and a mother of 3. I have two sons Nasir 5, Tyjhe 3 and a 8 month old daughter Ahjil. When I got pregnant with my oldest son I was 15 and my mother put me out, and my sons father and I moved out and got an apartment. While pregnant with my youngest son I came home one day from work to a dead boyfriend who had been shot and killed and a crying son who had seen his Daddy's life taken. I went through a lot of changes after the loss of my boyfriend, children's father, lover and most important bestfriend. At that point I thought there was no hope, I felt like I lost the only person who really cared about me. After the death of my sons father I didn't allow a close relationship with anyone really, not even my family. I was afraid to allow myself to get attached to anyone because I was afraid that I would lose them. I finally allowed myself to love again 2 years later which resulted in a 3rd pregnancy, and this time I finally got a baby girl, Ahjil.This past August on Terrell's 3 year death Anniversary, we visited his grave as usual; my daughter's father proposed to me, and I accepted. I have a man who accept and love my kids as if they all are his. I would have never expected that my life would be like this. At age 20 I always dreamed about going through college and living on campus. Who would've thought I've be a mother of 3...I love my kids and there isn't anything that I wouldn't do for them. I don't regret having them, I wish I would have waited! But at the end of the day, it's well worth it; nothing is more rewarding!

I am glad that things are working out for you. I am sorry that things were so rough on you. But it looks like God helped you though this one. Have you found a church? I noticed that you said that God was your only judge..... That is right. God knew you were strong enough for all that has happend to you and rewarded you in the end for all of your sturgles. Thank him for it and be glad in it... God loves you.... I am so happy you had a good ending.... But really this is just the begining...

WOW! What way to start life off with a child. It's great to hear you had a happy ending. God really did works things out for you. I wish a ton of luck for the future of you, your husband to be and your children.

smvt

I really feel for you with all you have been through. It's good to hear things are going well now. Have you two married yet or have a wedding in the near future?

Thanks "Destinysmom" it's good to hear some encouraging words to keep you motivated. it's really hard, and up until I met my daughter's father I had no help. Before I met him I worked 2 jobs and went to school, now I work only 1 job and i still attend school. It's so good, to finally be happy!

Thanks so much "smvt"! It's like it's finally my turn to be happy! I have been through a lot, and my experiences have taught me a lot. God has truly blessed me, not only with 3 beautiful children but a loving husband to be. I am so thankful!

Solo, no we haven't married yet! I want to get married on New Year's eve 2005, but he wants to get married in June so we can have it in a Bitanical Garden, I think that would be very elegent and romantic, but also very hot, don't you think? I don't know, I'm really aiming for a night New Years Eve Wedding, and the reception will turn into the countdown! What do you all think?

That sounds like an awesome idea! And a great way to start the new year! Does hubby to be like the idea also?

Well we decided to get married on June 26, 2004. We are getting married in the Bitanical Garden in Virginia Beach, VA at 8p.m we wanted it to be dark because it's so hot in the summer here. We're planning on lots of flower petals all over the ground and a lot of candals lit! We're planning on writing our own vows and since I never had a father figure my sons are going to give me away; and my daughter will be the only flower girl!

Hey everyone!
I haven't been on in so long, I've been so busy putting the finishing touches on my wedding. I am so excited! It seems like just yesterday I was telling you all that I was getting married and now the time is finally here! (Sat. June 26th) We decided to write our on vows and I just wanted to know everyone's opinions on what I'm planning on saying. So....

Darryl....throughout my life I've LOST, STRIVED, LEARNED and STRUGGLED. Through it all, you've remained by my side. I know it hasn't been easy lovin me, but no matter what....we always seem to make it through! I never truly knew happiness until I met you! Since you've been in my life I feel whole....I feel complete!...And I couldn't imagine my life without you in it. Baby, I love you more than any words can express! You still give me butterflies whenever you're in my presence. I get so caught up in you whenever I look into your eyes because you still look at me with that same passion and desire from the first day we met. Just the thought of you makes me blush. Since day one....you have been an exceptual father, lover, shoulder to cry on, words of wisdom (advice) and most importantly...my BEST FRIEND! And I can't wait another moment to spend the rest of my life with you!

Congrats on everything. I just read your post and it's great to know that though life brings us through many difficult times it seems to just make us stronger. I too have 3 beautiful monsters of my own. They are 9,10 & 13. I haven't given up on thinking there may be a wonderful man out there to love us all. You sharing your experience proves that. The vows are lovely. I wish your new marriage all of the best of Peace, Love and Happiness!!!

Congrats on your wedding as you have now been a newlywed for 2 days...LOL...Your word for your husband are beautifula nd brought tears to my eyes...that is what I am hoping for for myself and I am so happy for you that you found it...again CONGRATS!!!!!