I am a 26 yr old single mother of a nine yr old girl. I was 16 when I had her. Her father has nothing to do with us. That is my choice and his. That is not my issue.
I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 7 yrs. I was on the Depo shot for 2 yrs, that was 2 yrs ago. I have wanted a second child for about 3 yrs.
I am finally pregos!! My boyfriend does not want a child. He is upset that this is even going on.
I know I need to do what I feel is right. But sometimes you want something so much you can't see all sides.
Do I really want to be a single mom to 2 kids? Is it really that hard of a thing to do? If I did it when I was 16 all alone, why can't I do it now?
Time is ticking and I need to make a choice.
Can someone offer some words of wisdom?

Why were you so set on having another baby? You have plenty of time, and it sure doesn't sound like your partner was expecting this, much less wanting this. Usually being a single parent is something a person excepts after relationships don't work out. People in general, don't usually plan single parenthood. Sometimes they do, but that is not usually the case. However you sound as if you made this decision on your own not considering that this baby was going to be without the other parent. That was selfish. I don't believe in abortion so you have to make that decision by yourself. Your partner sounds irresponsible too, playing the game of sex and expecting that you are taking on the responsibility of birth control. Did you hint or fill him in on this plan? Now... it is not a question of whether he wants the baby or not? That was a question you should of discussed beforehand. I don't mean to sound judgemental or mean. There are so many single parents who fight the guilt everyday of not being able to fill in the gap for their kids of missing the other parent. Don't get me wrong, kids turn out great all the time with one strong parent, but I personally would not choose to put myself in this situation again. I don't know how you can even say it isn't hard. For me and my child....I want the best education and the best well being...(sports, religious education, music lessons, college savings) and if I were to bring another child into this picture it makes it that much harder to give that to the one that is already here. I don't think you are asking for advice, rather to ease your guilt of your selfish decision...hoping someone will confirm that your decision to get pregnant was ok. If you were to ask only me.... I would say it isn't ok.

Hi,

I read your post, I am a single mom of 2 girls and every day is different, some days I wish there was only one of them,like when they fight over a toy and some days I am glad they have each other, like when they give each other a hug and say "I love you sister" 1 kid or 2 I'm sure you are going to love both of them and be a great mom.

Not much to say that Thinker didn't already say. It seems you already made your choice.

As a guy, I would be upset as well, if I thought that my partner purposely got pregnant without my knowledge. Was he even aware that you had stopped getting the Depo shot? Doesn't sound like it.