Hello All! Well, over the weekend, the guy I was seeing seemed to run out of patience with my kids. He was melodramatic (in front of them) and said he was DONE!

My son was acting up and I disciplined him, BF took him in the room to get him to calm down and to talk to him. Well, my son jerked away and went to the table where we were eating, that's when the BF came out and said he wasd DONE.. so, I ate, got my things, my kids and left.

2 days later, I start getting messages that he wants to talk.. that he's very sorry.. yada yada. Why haven't I called him, he 'TESTED me.. and I passed the test'..?? Whatever!

On the one hand I feel really bad.. on the other - I was already tired of the drama!

Anyway - just updating ya.

hey...good to see you are so strong when it comes to your kids. I know how you feel. I know it's hard for someone to accept another's children, but if someone cant' accept the kids, the good AND the bad, 100%, then it's not going to work anyway. Well either way....hope you enjoyed your dinner before you left!! hahaha!!

Well, it would be one thing if I hadn't been handling the situation. He has a daughter that upsets everyone when she's around b/c of her behaviour and he does nothing about it.

So.. oh well.. : )

"Testing you"....bushwah....that's lame...and not something you do to someone you care about.

Dawn...based on what you've told us about this already there just isn't any way I can pussy-foot here...
Besides it's not my nature....

You did the right thing....now do whats right for you and your kids & stay the helll away from him....

And I'm surprised Bin didn't say this so I will....Put a fork in him he's done....

Honestly this makes me vomit in my mouth a little. I know folks come here for support and not condemnation so I've said nothing so far. You admit your ex-husband DRUGGED your children to get them to sleep so he could have alone time with you. You knowing that and allowing it is horrific to me.

You then say your boyfriend is an alcoholic - everyone who responded suggests this is bad for you and more importantly, bad for your children.

Now you allow him to take your son - who is upset- in to another room to do God knows what to him. The alcoholic dramatically yells he's done in front of your kids and you are able to just sit and finish your dinner? I mean seriously, did I miss something here?

Perhaps my protective Mama Bear side is stronger than it should be, but I simply can not relate to you in any way shape or form with encouraging "you go girl" sentiments. I just find it so disturbing.

If I misread this in anyway, and I hope I did, then I sincerely apologize. If not, please try to step back and look at this as if it were someone else posting and what you would think...

Hi Laurie.. and thanks for your post. First of all, I am a strong independent woman. I did not get that way over night. My husband drugged my kids twice.. TWICE... when I found out I divorced him! NO questions asked.. be gone. To put my kids lives in danger - was out of the question.

On the BF. The BF.. has never had an inkling of disciplining of my children, nor I his. I am their mother, I discipline my children. He was trying to talk calmly to my son.. and get him on 'his side' to try and difuse him. This usually works with my son, as they are usually buds.

Did I calmly finish my dinner - No. My chilren ate their dinner, pretty unaware, while packed my stuff up and as soon as they were done.. we left. Calmly.

My protective Mama is there. I promise you that. I can imagine that just from an outsiders view.. and not knowing me .. that this does look disturbing.

yay. i was sooo hoping i read it wrong. and am so glad you wrote back and clarified. not that you owe me or anyone else an explanation, just that, well, it was nice to be wrong for once (as compared to it being icky to be wrong)

Well, in my situation, with my boys being allowed to do whatever they want at their dads house.. w.out any form of discipline (no rules, no calling him daddy, no yes sir no sir..etc) it is very difficult with my 3 sometimes. It is nice sometimes to have the help in calming the twins down.. because they get so emotionally out of hand for somereason.

In any case... The whole I was tested thing really put me over the top b/c, My kids may test me, My job may test me, I may test myself.. but no significant other or partner will EVER test me and think that it's ok!

Have a good evening all! Headed home soon.

Good for you sticking up for yourself and your boys!! I say good riddance to him and his weird ideas of testing you.