Hi to all the moms and dads too on the board. I'm almost two years out of a 13 year relationship and the only thing good I left with was my daughter. It's been a loooooong hard road, but I've got a good job and a place to call home now. I thought that would be the end to my sadness but nooooo lol. Now I'm dealing with okay I have all this but no one to share it with. I'm single for the first time in my life at the age of 29 (not easy). Also from being in my past relationship and busy being mom I didn't keep much around for myself. So now I find myself with this increasing lonleyness <spell check...anyway it just keeps getting bigger and darker. I feel like my life is the same routine every week and as if I'm falling in a rut and seeing this is the how the rest of my life is going to be!!!!! So tonight through my madness, I decide to join a support group site and set up a few goals for some change in routine to make it better. So that's my introduction, that's my story...I'm all ears for any advice you may have of how you have dealt with these same issues. Look forward to making some friends and getting as well as giving some support. Thanx in advance

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Originally posted by yuki:
[qb]Welcome! And congrats for getting yourself on track and a job and home!!! Not a small feat, and you should be very proud.
How old is your son/daughter/children? Sounds like you have worked very hard at getting things stabilized for your family and now need some "mommy time!"
I am sure a girls night out or a class is much needed and deserved. What kinds of things are you interested in? Can you get out (depending on ages of children?)
Yes, it is a big world out there and you are still very young and have accomplished a lot. Time for you to get out and grab some of it![/qb]

Thanx Yuki for the warm welcome! I am proud of myself and I know I accomplished a lot. It's just hard to "feel" that way sometimes. Mommy time is definately part of the probelem. I have one daughter and she is 11 and yes I can get out from time to time because she will go out with her grandma or her father. The problem is as I had said in my original post, I didn't keep much around for myself as in friends to do stuff with. My two best friends are married with kids so it makes it hard to have anyone to do stuff with. One lives far and we usually just meet up with the kids once in awhile and the other who lives close is going through a lot of problems right now, so I'm being there for her but she can't really get out to do much. At work they are all married or in relationships...so I don't have any single people or other single mothers to go out with. That is why I find myself lonely and depressed so often. The class idea is great though, I never thought of that, I will have to look into that one.
I've looked up some social clubs around my area, but they all seem to stuffy...all these rules and so forth. It made me smile to read your reply today, so again thanx for the welcome and I will look into the class idea...I know it's up to me to find solutions to my sadness it's just hard sometimes and easier to give up, but a lil inspiration or advice goes a long way. Thank you!

Hi Stacey!
I am much earlier in the 'becoming single' ball game. I have yet to provide all the things you have accomplished for my four children & I. I pray I will do as well as you have! I, too, am coming out of a 13 year relationship, but only 3 months out right now. I have yet to do ANYTHING without the kids & can't imagine what I would do if I could. I also have 2 friends, both married w/kids, who I can't get together with. Does your community offer 'Adult continuing education' classes. Mine does, and has great ones like crafts, literature, poetry, ball room dance, karate, yoga....just an abundance of fun stuff I'd like to try someday. I'm still at the basic step of figuring the 'where to go from here', but sounds to me like you have the wonderful opportunity of basking in the security of knowing you've done the hard work. It's time to let your hair down & figure what you would like for YOU!! Whatever you decide will be an opportunity to make new friends, try something you've always wanted to and perhaps even learn more about yourself. Keep us posted - if you don't mind me living vicariously through you...lol.....

Welcome! And congrats for getting yourself on track and a job and home!!! Not a small feat, and you should be very proud.
How old is your son/daughter/children? Sounds like you have worked very hard at getting things stabilized for your family and now need some "mommy time!"
I am sure a girls night out is much needed and deserved. What kinds of things are you interested in? Can you get out (depending on ages of children?)
Where are you living now??(state) I am also a single mom of two. I am currently staying with my mom at the age of 29. She however can not wait to get rid of me, and my load children. Some where along the broken lines of communication she heard children are to make absolutely NO noise. I am hoping the state can offer me help in finding a decent place for the kids and me to call home.