and I'm freaked out about it. We were together for three years, we met when my daughter was 6 months old. He has a 20 year old son that was recently arrested for sexual assault on a woman and wanted said son to come and stay the weekend with us. Well, I said no. He came home, told me that I wasn't going to make him choose between me or his children, handed me $150 and told me to leave. We had nowhere to go and had to live in our car for a few days before having to move 6 hours away with a friend. Now I have to go on Saturday to get my stuff and I don't know what to do. This was DEVASTATING to my children, and I'm really livid about what he did to them. How do I handle this situation?

Thanks for your help guys, I know I don't know any of you.

Jess

Well, I haven't been in your situation, but my first thought was that you should make sure somebody is babysitting your kids, and you should bring a friend or someone you trust with you. I wouldn't go alone. He sounds hostile and I'd hate to see things escalate for you.

Good luck. I'm sure it'll turn out OK. Just keep yourself safe.

I have known people who lived with a boyfriend and had to move out suddenly. You can actually contact the local police, if you don't have anyone to go with you, and they will escort you to get your stuff. Also if you paid any part of the rent he may have to return it to you because he evicted you on such short notice. Even if you did not pay rent you still have the right to get your stuff back with a police escort.

Be safe.

I think contacting the police is a good idea. At least then I know there will be no drama.

That does sound like a good plan.

Will you let us know how it goes, when it's over?

Wishing you good luck!

I will let you know, thanks. Tomorrow is going to be pretty difficult.

So I went and got my stuff, and it was devastating. ARGH. Why are men so darn stubborn??? He was a real jerk to me too. Glad that's over, but no men for me for a long while. This goose is cooked!!!

Men are stubborn???????? You should've seen my postings about women when I first joined...lol

Ok, I know women can be stubborn as well..but we put up with a lot.

In a way it's kind of good he was a jerk to you. My ex has the habit of (every once in a rare while) treating me like she used to. It makes me feel like the old her is still in there somewhere.

I know she's not though but it opens up the wounds.

Michail, you are right. It would have sucked that he had done that. It would have made it harder, even though I'm still pretty peeved about what he did to my children, especially my daughter. She ADORED him, called him daddy, followed him like a shadow and he threw her out on the street like trash. You think you know somebody, then they do something you'd never expect. I can't really blame him for choosing his son (it's what I would do) but he could have chosen a better way to make his point.

I understand about choosing kids first, but he should have told his son to wait a few weekends to come, amd given you some time to leave. OR if he really cared, perhaps when he gets interested in someone... just tell them if they get serious and end up living together would they be okay with his son who's been charged w that nasty stuff to come and stay w him, I'm sry, but I don't know ANYONE who has children who would be okay with that, heck, I wouldn't be okay with it even if I didn't have kids!

Here's the thing, his son's mother lives 4 houses down from where we lived. Why couldn't he camp out in a tent in her stupid yard? I just can't get my mind around what happened.

I want to think that's not the only reason why you two split up right?

Adrian - Yes, that is the only reason. We were just fine right before that, we had actually had a conversation 2 hours before about how well we were together. A 3 year relationship gone in 5 minutes. And there was a situation between me and his son previously, he knew his son scared me. By the way, I can't pm from this site, I didn't want you to think I was ignoring you. Do you have a my space page or something?